MY LOVER IS CHEATING ON ME WITH THREE OTHER GIRLS
QUESTION: I am struggling to continue a relationship with my boyfriend after finding out that he is cheating on me with three girls. I don’t know what to do?
Mom replies: This means that “your” boyfriend is juggling four girlfriends. It’s bad my Dahlink. Jump ship! We live in an era fraught with diseases. Hoping you haven’t caught any of them yet. Save yourself and leave because he was never your boyfriend. Just press the reset button, go out into the world and start again. Boitumelo replies: This is written danger in red letters. Being in this relationship seems to be riskier than crossing the road when the robot is red. It’s a blessing you were able to discover his cheating ways because now you know for sure you cannot trust him with your life. A partner who cares about you will protect you by protecting themselves first from potential risks that come with multiple relationships. The mistake would be to think that he might change for you or you embarking on a project to fix him. Unless you want a project, it is clear it’s time to move on. Question: I am 36 years old. I am in a sexless marriage and for two years now we haven’t had any. My hubby is not sick but has lost interest in sex, though he claims to still love me. Mom replies: You have conjugal rights and you must remind him. Talk him through why you need sex. Make him understand that, by him withholding sex, your marital rights are being violated. He has to tell you what his problem is and how the two of you can tackle it. Otherwise, he must sign an affidavit relinquishing all his sexual duties to someone else.
Boitumelo replies: You’re saying he has lost interest and he is not intentionally withholding sex from you. Loss of interest in sex can be caused by psychological or medical conditions and this must be clarified by a professional. I imagine it might be embarrassing for him to talk about this and therefore he takes advantage of your understanding and your quietness about the matter. It seems you have to be the driver on this issue. Communicate your needs and your expectation of him to do something about this.