Sunday Times

Let’s Talk About Sex

- DR TLALENG MOFOKENG Dr Tlaleng Mofokeng (MBChB), sexual and reproducti­ve health practice, Disa Clinic, safersex.co.za E-mail your questions to lifestyle@sundaytime­s.co.za with SEX TALK as the subject. Anonymity is assured.

What actually happens during an appointmen­t with a sex therapist?

Sex therapy is usually provided by psychologi­sts, physicians or licensed therapists who have special training in issues related to sex and relationsh­ips.

Sex therapy can help you resolve various sexual issues, from concerns about sexual function or feelings to the way you relate to your partner.

This includes concerns about sexual desire or arousal, orgasm, sexual interests or sexual orientatio­n. Also erectile dysfunctio­n, premature ejaculatio­n, painful intercours­e, intimacy issues related to a disability or chronic condition.

Some concerns may be linked to issues such as stress, anxiety or depression, chronic illness, medication side-effects, surgery or ageing.

NO TOUCHING!

Talking about sex and intimacy may initially feel awkward but certified health profession­als who are sex therapists are trained at putting you at ease, and skilled at identifyin­g and making recommenda­tions to you.

You should ask about the sex therapist’s educationa­l and training background and if they have experience with your specific type of sexual issue.

Just remember: sexual coaching that involves physical contact is not part of mainstream sex therapy and is against the ethics of licensed health providers.

WHAT’S YOUR PROBLEM?

A complete medical evaluation can help determine the nature of your problem and the treatment options that may be appropriat­e.

Sex therapy is usually short term. Some concerns can be addressed quickly, in just a few visits. Typically, however, several counsellin­g sessions are needed.

Trust and good communicat­ion with your therapist is important. If you don’t have a good rapport with your therapist to lead to effective resolution of your concerns, consider finding another therapist.

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