TATUM KESHWAR

Former Miss SA, 35

Mother: Roslyn Bengtson

Age in the photo: 21

How do you feel stepping into her frame?

It felt so nostalgic – looking at this picture, I feel it encapsulates the essence, everything I know her to be – girly, down to earth and sweet. That is the essence of my mom now.

What do you think the dreams and aspirations of the woman in the picture are?

I think that is what is amazing. When my mom was 20 she was scouted to be a model, but her life took her on a different path. I was afforded the opportunity that she couldn’t take. I became a model and then Miss South Africa and that led to so many other opportunities. So even though she may not have been able to fulfil that dream, through me vicariously it was something that manifested in our lives.

Describe your mom. My mother is the most gracious and selfless person I know. She is always there to help and support other people. The kindest heart who puts everyone before herself. What have you learnt from your mother?

The most important thing I have learnt is that regardless of what is going on around you, to summon the highest and best version of yourself and always present that.

How has motherhood impacted on you?

I always knew I wanted to be a mother, but you never understand what it is until you are in that position. Now you understand what it is to be a mother. It heightens your dimension of being a woman. You understand what she had to go through, all the sacrifices she had to make. You have a deeper level of understanding and compassion for mothers and women in general.

How have gender roles changed since this picture was taken? I think the essence of being a woman and a mother are by and large the same. There is the same level of dedication and sacrifice. But the world has changed so much. Family structure has changed, and the demands and expectations on women are much greater, but the levels of dedication and sacrifice are still there.