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magazine recently ran a sex survey to find out if South Africans are really as sexually liberated as many believe.

Do the majority of people have a secret stash of whips and chains? And what do guys think of women who do?

They asked about 1 500 of their male readers about their sex lives and came to surprising conclusions. These results were then compared to their female readers responses in the sex survey.

Most South Africans lose their virginity at the age of 16 to 18.

But it turns out that only 15% of these men are very happy with their sex lives while 20% of women are ecstatic.

When it comes to the question of monogamy, 59% of women still believed that it s engrained in our human DNA.

But 51% of men believe being faithful is simply not possible.

We ve always heard that it s men who want to get into a woman s pants on the first date, but it turns out it s more women 65% of them expect sex on a first date while only 33% want intercourse after three dates.

Turns out a whopping 80% of men would rather have a blowjob than the actual action between the sheets.

Seventy-six percent of the male species loved being licked so much, they prefer it over a steak.

And seems girls are not as conservative as we pretend to be as 44% of women are into watching porn.

They believe it s a harmless addiction to a healthy sex life.

When it comes down to favourite positions, it s not the kama sutra that comes out singing, but doggy style.

Both men and women agree this is the best position, and it works well for quickies.

Except for the men whose biggest fear is not getting it up during the dance. Luckily, only 19% suffer from this.

Although porn is high on the list of things to get you off, some of the stints they do are not a turn on.

Only 2% of these survey participants rate using the chocolate box as kinky and define it as sex.

If you do want to try it, it s important to relax, use lots and lots of lube and let penetration be slow and gentle, says relationship therapist Traci Coventry.

Those who have tried it, rave about the heightened experience. Doctor Laura Berman, author of

It s Him Not You, says worrying about climaxing only creates more stress.

But it seems men think they hold all the power and make a woman orgasm every time.

Shockingly, 56% of females agree that they fake it.

Doctor Lori Buckley, author of 21 Decisions for Great Sex and a Happy Relationship suggests using sex toys to spice things up.

If he is the kinda guy that s grossed out by the idea, then convince him, she says.

Her advice is for women to tell their men that they read an article on the wonders of the gadgets and ask him to consider trying it.

Lastly, it s been proven that an orgasm is the epitome of letting go. So go forth and conquer.

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