Kelly: The victim not the villain
South Africans are quick to accuse women of being homewreckers while sympathising with the real culprits, men writes Babalwa Shota
SHE has been labelled a homewrecker and jezebel and likened to the black widow spider, which devours its partner after mating with it.
Except for her almost 80 000 Twitter fans, I think it’s safe to say that singer Kelly Khumalo is one of the least liked celebrities in Mzansi right now.
This week, as South Africa was gripped by the sensational Oscar Pistorius murder trial, Khumalo was probably part of the handful who didn’t give a damn because her own world is caving in on her.
At a time when she should be at her happiest, getting ready to release a new powerhouse album and give birth to her second child, Khumalo is cowering under the covers, hiding from a world that has vilified her.
True, she had an affair with a married man.
It’s indisputable that she fell pregnant by that man within a few months of the relationship. And, yes, she has an assault conviction hanging over her head for allegedly beating up her lover’s wife. So, true, it’s difficult to have sympathy for this vocalist, who seems hellbent on being Mzansi’s version of Lindsay Lohan or, at best, the celebrity poster child for “Worst Behaviour ”.
Khumalo’s personal shenanigans have become so legendary that people know more about who has been inside her cookie jar than what her last hit was.
I can’t help but feel sorry for this young woman whose life always implodes when there is a man involved.
She was almost full-term pregnant when she received news that her lover and baby daddy number one, Molemo “Jub Jub” Maarohanye, had ploughed into schoolchildren in Soweto while in a drink and drugs haze.
He had been racing with a friend in the MINI Cooper Khumalo had apparently bought him.
The news was shocking enough to send any woman into early labour.
Khumalo retreated from the public
Why is it so easy to demonise a pregnant woman - whose situation was not entirely of her doing - while throwing sympathetic murmurs over the man's side
eye, only to resurface a year later, declaring that she was “standing by my man”. She then proceeded to turn the court’s corridors into her personal runway.
We all know how that relationship ended…
Now there’s baby daddy number two, Orlando Pirates goalkeeper Senzo Meyiwa.
After lying to her about his marital status and impregnating her, almost from the word go, Meyiwa finally bowed to public and family pressure. He dumped Khumalo like a hot potato when she was almost eight months pregnant.
His excuse? She showed off her naked belly in public.
As far as lame excuses go, this one takes the cake… and the oven it was baked in.
Excuses aside, it’s amazing how the public, social media trolls and holierthan-thou gossip magazines have been happily tearing Khumalo apart.
“She deserves it”, “she’s a homewrecker ”, “she got what she deserves” blah blah blah…
What is it about South Africans, and black women in particular, that makes them go for each other’s jugular when a man is involved?
You ’ d swear that Khumalo got pregnant by herself, and that she was not lied to and manipulated into a relationship by a cunning man.
You ’ d think that “Saint Senzo” was an unfortunate victim with a doormat wife who got taken in by the seductive wiles of a ghetto temptress.
Why is it so easy to demonise a pregnant woman – whose situation was not entirely of her doing – while throwing sympathetic murmurs over the man’s side?
He is the one who cheated on his wife.
He is the one who tricked another woman into getting involved with him.
He is the one who planted his seed in her.
And he is the one who is a spineless coward, who hides behind “culture ” and his woman’s skirt when the going gets tough.
Kelly Khumalo is not the devil here. She is as much of a victim as Meyiwa’s wife is.
NOT GUILTY: A heavily pregnant Kelly Khumalo is under fire for being a femme fatale.