Kelly: The vic­tim not the vil­lain

South Africans are quick to ac­cuse women of be­ing homewreck­ers while sym­pa­this­ing with the real cul­prits, men writes Ba­balwa Shota

Sunday World - - Opinion -

SHE has been la­belled a homewrecker and jezebel and likened to the black widow spi­der, which de­vours its part­ner af­ter mat­ing with it.

Ex­cept for her al­most 80 000 Twit­ter fans, I think it’s safe to say that singer Kelly Khu­malo is one of the least liked celebri­ties in Mzansi right now.

This week, as South Africa was gripped by the sen­sa­tional Os­car Pis­to­rius mur­der trial, Khu­malo was prob­a­bly part of the hand­ful who didn’t give a damn be­cause her own world is cav­ing in on her.

At a time when she should be at her hap­pi­est, get­ting ready to re­lease a new pow­er­house al­bum and give birth to her sec­ond child, Khu­malo is cow­er­ing un­der the cov­ers, hid­ing from a world that has vil­i­fied her.

True, she had an af­fair with a mar­ried man.

It’s in­dis­putable that she fell preg­nant by that man within a few months of the re­la­tion­ship. And, yes, she has an as­sault con­vic­tion hang­ing over her head for al­legedly beat­ing up her lover’s wife. So, true, it’s dif­fi­cult to have sym­pa­thy for this vo­cal­ist, who seems hell­bent on be­ing Mzansi’s ver­sion of Lind­say Lo­han or, at best, the celebrity poster child for “Worst Be­hav­iour ”.

Khu­malo’s per­sonal shenani­gans have be­come so leg­endary that people know more about who has been in­side her cookie jar than what her last hit was.

I can’t help but feel sorry for this young woman whose life al­ways im­plodes when there is a man in­volved.

She was al­most full-term preg­nant when she re­ceived news that her lover and baby daddy num­ber one, Molemo “Jub Jub” Maaro­hanye, had ploughed into school­child­ren in Soweto while in a drink and drugs haze.

He had been rac­ing with a friend in the MINI Cooper Khu­malo had ap­par­ently bought him.

The news was shock­ing enough to send any woman into early labour.

Khu­malo re­treated from the pub­lic

Why is it so easy to de­monise a preg­nant woman - whose sit­u­a­tion was not en­tirely of her do­ing - while throw­ing sym­pa­thetic mur­murs over the man's side

eye, only to resur­face a year later, declar­ing that she was “stand­ing by my man”. She then pro­ceeded to turn the court’s cor­ri­dors into her per­sonal run­way.

We all know how that re­la­tion­ship ended…

Now there’s baby daddy num­ber two, Or­lando Pi­rates goal­keeper Senzo Meyiwa.

Af­ter ly­ing to her about his mar­i­tal sta­tus and im­preg­nat­ing her, al­most from the word go, Meyiwa fi­nally bowed to pub­lic and fam­ily pres­sure. He dumped Khu­malo like a hot potato when she was al­most eight months preg­nant.

His ex­cuse? She showed off her naked belly in pub­lic.

As far as lame ex­cuses go, this one takes the cake… and the oven it was baked in.

Ex­cuses aside, it’s amaz­ing how the pub­lic, so­cial me­dia trolls and holierthan-thou gos­sip mag­a­zines have been hap­pily tear­ing Khu­malo apart.

“She de­serves it”, “she’s a homewrecker ”, “she got what she de­serves” blah blah blah…

What is it about South Africans, and black women in par­tic­u­lar, that makes them go for each other’s jugu­lar when a man is in­volved?

You ’ d swear that Khu­malo got preg­nant by her­self, and that she was not lied to and ma­nip­u­lated into a re­la­tion­ship by a cun­ning man.

You ’ d think that “Saint Senzo” was an un­for­tu­nate vic­tim with a door­mat wife who got taken in by the se­duc­tive wiles of a ghetto temptress.

Why is it so easy to de­monise a preg­nant woman – whose sit­u­a­tion was not en­tirely of her do­ing – while throw­ing sym­pa­thetic mur­murs over the man’s side?

He is the one who cheated on his wife.

He is the one who tricked an­other woman into get­ting in­volved with him.

He is the one who planted his seed in her.

And he is the one who is a spine­less coward, who hides be­hind “cul­ture ” and his woman’s skirt when the go­ing gets tough.

Kelly Khu­malo is not the devil here. She is as much of a vic­tim as Meyiwa’s wife is.

Pic­ture: Bafana Mahlangu

NOT GUILTY: A heav­ily preg­nant Kelly Khu­malo is un­der fire for be­ing a femme fa­tale.

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