Sweeter second time around
14 years heal bitter divorce for Virginia and Nat
Sometimes two people need to let go in order to find each other again.
The story of Virginia and Nat Mohlatlole is not one many can relate to. Only a few will attempt to remarry after an acrimonious divorce
Virginia says the separation was necessary as they are now more mature and respect each other more.
Their first marriage was on December 4, 1998.
But it didn’t last long as they divorced due to what they saw as irreconcilable differences then, despite having two children together.
However, 14 years later they rekindled the flame.
“In June 2016 I parted with someone I was seeing. When I had to attend my ex-husband’s uncle’s funeral in Limpopo I needed a lift from him. On that day as we drove down, I noticed some changes in him. He had matured, had great wisdom and he was a God-fearing person. I also realised how generous he was and that he loved me and all my children.
“The man I married the first time had changed a lot. All the years I was sceptical to go back to him because our divorce was terrible,” she says.
Virginia, 46, explains that Nat, 54, wanted them to get back together in 2008 and 2011 but she was not yet ready. She wasn’t happy in her new relationship either.
“I said to myself, ‘Vee, wait a minute, you have always known that you will get back together but you did not know when. The time is now... you have two choices. It’s either you go back or you get stuck in your current relationship which is going nowhere’. Since then I decided Vavula tanu vanhu vakurhandzana,” she said.
Things took a turn when she was planning a dream holiday.
“I called him. I had planned a vacation to Europe with a friend. But she wasn’t going anymore, which meant I was to travel alone to France and Italy for nine nights. I called my ex and asked him to join me for the vacation already paid for.
“We travelled to Paris on 14 Nov 2016 and the following day he asked me to marry him again, right before the Eiffel Tower. I couldn’t stop pinching myself as it was like I’m dreaming. We spent three nights in Paris and headed to Italy Venice, Rome and Florence.”
Their wedding was held on a beach in the Seychelles on October 28 last year.
“Originally it was supposed to be the two of us but I convinced him to invite our friends. The reception was at the Avani Barbarons Spa and Resort in Miserie Seychelles. We were 50 in total including my four children. My husband’s friend, Makopane Nchabeleng, was there. It was because of him that we met many years ago and he has been to both our weddings,” says Virginia.
She says because it was their second marriage they wanted to do things differently and didn’t concentrate too much on traditions and rituals.
Instead of a ballgown she wore first time round, Virginia wanted to show off her edgier side and wore a form fitted mermaid dress.
“This time it was just an acceptance of each other with new vows to seal our love. Part of our vows was that we are to allow each other space to do the things we love. I love partying and he enjoys spiritual retreats.” She says she finally has that marital glow.
“The separation of 14 years was necessary and like a good fine wine, we are much better together,” she says.
They spent their Honeymoon in Indonesia, Bali Kuta.
Nat and Virginia Mohlatlole’s first wedding in 1998.
Nat and Virginia and their bridesmaids and groomsmen.
Nat and Virginia Mohlatlole remarry years later after separating.