Smack­ing is not an op­tion

The Citizen (KZN) - - City - Karabo Mokoena Be clear and con­sis­tent Use dis­trac­tion Don’t set un­nec­es­sary lim­its

Par­ents love their kids – when they lis­ten. But there are mo­ments they’ll dis­like their tod­dler.

At this stage, chil­dren are dis­cov­er­ing their cu­rios­ity is limited by rules. They can­not just run off and play with the con­tents of the bin be­cause they feel like it. They also can­not run about the street and do as they please. This frus­trates them.

They start learn­ing how to say “no” – and they mean it. They also do every­thing that they know presses par­ents’ but­tons.

Dis­ci­plin­ing a tod­dler is all about set­ting bound­aries and lim­it­ing their cu­rios­ity.

Smack­ing them is not an op­tion un­less you fancy your day in court or a cell.

Ac­cord­ing to Chil­dren’s Health, rules have to be set early, and con­sis­tently.

It is con­fus­ing if one day chil­dren are al­lowed to hit you and then the next day they can’t.

If you be­lieve it is never okay to hit peo­ple, then be clear that it is never okay.

When your kids try to en­gage in some­thing that will en­dan­ger them, dis­tract in­stead of shout. Health­line rec­om­mends you firmly tell them “no”, then call their name.

“Once they’re fix­ated on you, call them over and show them some­thing they’ll like that is safe.”

Kids love ex­plor­ing this new big world. Some­times par­ents limit every­thing and it frus­trates them. So in­stead, help your child ex­plore. Rather than stop­ping them ev­ery time they touch things Health­line sug­gests you “help them fig­ure out what is safe and not safe to touch”.

Try “no touch” for ob­jects off lim­its or un­safe, “soft touch” for faces and an­i­mals and “yes touch” for safe items. And have fun think­ing of other word as­so­ci­a­tions, like “hot touch”, “cold touch” or “owie touch” to help tame your lit­tle one’s roam­ing fin­gers”.

Dis­ci­plin­ing a cu­ri­ous hu­man be­ing re­quires par­ents to un­der­stand their cu­rios­ity, but still set bound­aries.

They will get on your last nerve, but re­mem­ber, they are ex­plor­ing, but also en­joy see­ing you frus­trated.

So han­dling things calmly will ben­e­fit both you and your tod­dler.

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