Thought for the day
You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.
WHILE it is simplistic I find it very helpful, and, while this is my own synopsis, my writing and my thinking is deeply influenced by the likes of Murray Bowen, Edwin Friedman and Schnarch.
These writers have articulated these thoughts with much greater thoroughness than I. Emotional process (your “inner-brewing” or the “subterranean-working” – usually invisible – beneath the surface of any group) is on a broad continuum.
On the one end, the primal or reptilian end, individuals and groups are highly reactive. Conspiracies abound. Either/or, or black/white thinking (it’s hardly actually thinking) is rampant.
Walls and fences are erected because “others” are the enemy. It’s impossible to have a reasonable conversation because reason David .................. 031 308 2332 ............ Fikile-Ntsikelelo Moya .............. Bruce Colly ......... Philani Mazibuko ....................... Billy Suter ...... Greg Hutson Simon Osler doesn’t work with unreasonable people. In this world weakness is failure, vulnerability and mercy are indications of surrender.
When I (dys)function on this end of the continuum I am uncomfortable and thinking people are uncomfortable around me.
On the other end, the thinking, creative end, people are more human.
Ambiguity can be embraced, opposing points of view can be entertained and minds can even be changed. Openness to others, mercy, welcoming a stranger, is not seen as losing but as potential for growth.
When I function on this end of the continuum I am at my most humane and my most creative. ............... 031 308 2004 ................... 080 020 4711 .......................................... 031 308 2022 ................ mercnews@inl.co.za www.facebook.com/themercurysa www.twitter.com/themercurysa