The Mercury

Alcohol abuse: is there a way out?

- ROD SMITH rodsmithfp­

IS IT possible to move beyond living around the excessive use of alcohol?

It is indeed possible for you to get out of a relationsh­ip that is plagued by another’s use of alcohol. But you have to be willing to lose everything in order to gain the return of your life.

Sit with that thought for at least a few days, weeks or even longer. You have to count the cost. What got you into this quagmire is also about you and not only about the user in your family.

I am not blaming the victim. I am suggesting that something within your understand­ing of relationsh­ips, commitment and love permitted your co-operation with the journey that has ended where you are. You may have to understand what you ignored about others and about yourself that has delivered you to this point.

When you come to grips with your role in the relationsh­ip, take responsibi­lity for your part in it and begin to make small modificati­ons to your responses and behaviours, things will begin to shift for you.

I promise you nothing but support as you embark on this road of discovery.

Until you see your contributi­on to the way things are, you will not be able to see how things could be.

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