The Mercury

It really doesn’t have to be this way ...

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THERE are overwhelmi­ng emotions – feelings, mind traps – most will face, to one degree or another, especially as we advance in age, hopefully grow in awareness, and have moved beyond the innocent, but necessary, belief in our individual invincibil­ity.

A sense of being disqualifi­ed – the lurking thought that the past denies a person access to possibilit­ies. Being too bad, too reckless, he or she feels undeservin­g. The shame of being disqualifi­ed can become integral to a person’s personalit­y and is often confused with humility.

A sense of living in exile – the lurking belief that a person’s history, reputation, class, a lack of status puts him or her on the outside of groups to which he or she longs to belong. Habitual trepidatio­n, fear of rejection, can become a skittishne­ss so embedded it is assumed he or she is simply “the nervous type”.

A sense of being forever unforgiven – the lurking belief that nothing a person can do will erase the mark deserved as a result of his or her own doing. This powerful shame can drive a person into silence and into literal isolation.

Listen, watch. Be a source of love and acceptance others so desperatel­y need. You have it in you. No one needs to exist in these states of silence and desperatio­n.

 ?? ?? ROD SMITH rodsmithfp­nc@gmail.com
ROD SMITH rodsmithfp­nc@gmail.com

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