Is your relationship failing? Try a sex party, says guru

It’s all about being honest about one’s needs and adding fun, Pleasure Professor points out

ADATING guru who says her love for her boyfriend is deeper because they have an open relationship is convinced that frequenting sex parties together can save a marriage.

Louise van der Velde, 40, who works as an international sex and relationship expert, TV presenter and author, is so convinced by the power of sex parties that she even runs her own in Marbella and Ibiza, both in Spain, and in Surrey, England.

Speaking about her X-rated parties, London-born Van der Velde told Mail-Online: “Some may see them as sleazy, which is definitely why I have created a VIP brand just for hot, sexy, cool people. They are normal, lovely people who all have one thing in common: they want fun but value being honest about their sexual needs. They simply want a bit more from the humdrum of one lover.”

Van der Velde’s two-day events welcome guests to a luxury villa with a skinny-dipping party, followed by Champagne and oysters. There are four breakout rooms: one for massage only, one for Tantra, and one dubbed “the human jigsaw room”, as well as a dungeon for the “more adventurous” guests.

Van der Velde, who didn’t reveal the cost of attending her Marbella parties, says they are frequented by celebrities.

“They trust me as I never say anything about who’s there, and all phones and cameras are removed at the door. My parties are known as the most elite and private in the world. Discretion is my middle name.”

The ratio of women to men is 70/30 because, she explains, “many couples want to play with girls”.

Van der Velde, who splits her time between London and Spain, sees VIP clients at a private clinic in Harley Street and a deluxe, mansion retreat in Marbella.

Speaking about her decision to establish sex parties, she said: “Before I started running these two years ago, I went to one myself but saw so much that needed to be improved, like the people – some were scruffy. If they turn up to ours looking anything less than amazing, they don’t get in.”

Van der Velde, who admits she has slept with only 11 people in the past 20 years, has been in a relationship with one of her “close friends” for eight months.

“I call the shots and pick the girls we have a bit of fun with. Obviously he’s a very happy man. Our love is deeper for the honesty we share.”

Van der Velde – also known as the Pleasure Professor – was the resident sex and relationship expert on ITV1’s Lorraine, as well as on Trisha, and has divided opinion in the past with her views on cheating.

“I’ve always said I believe in honesty and not monogamy. If people don’t stop lying to themselves and their partner about their sexual needs and reassess how they may change over time, we will just continue to see a rise in infidelity, lies, cheating and divorce.

“I always said honesty is the key. Sex parties take the deceit out of wanting more sexually and make it all okay,” she says.