KATLEGO and RENEILWE DUBE’S strong friendship blossomed into a glorious day filled with laughter and love.
My husband and I met at varsity in 2008. We became very good friends and Katlego, “Kat”, soon “adopted” me as his sister. We became like siblings: looking out and making fun of each other, as well as getting on each others’ nerves. Katlego often reminds me how I once told him I could never date him because I would kill him within three months! So when our romance suddenly blossomed four years later, it caught us both by surprise. It felt odd at first, but we both had a deep and sure feeling that this was home. Just over a year later, Kat proposed at a sunrise picnic, and that was the beginning of our forever.
My favourite moment of our wedding was when our pastor pronounced us husband and wife. I couldn’t help but jump up and down, much to our guests’ amusement. It was a wonderful moment.
The main challenge of organising the wedding was sticking to our budget. It’s so easy for brides to get carried away. Kat was the financial manager for the wedding and he indulged me where it mattered most – for example, my dress. But otherwise, I got creative with some DIY projects with the help of Pinterest.
Leading up to the wedding, I felt excited. I didn’t experience any of the stress or the prewedding jitters I had heard about. I wondered if I was perhaps missing something, but I think planning the wedding well in advance contributed to a stress- free process.
Our big day was glorious. It had been our prayer that God be there as part of our wedding, and on the day, it was like His glory was everywhere. We sensed it. I was happy to have my girls and sister with me as we got ready, and having my mother help me get dressed was special. The sunny weather was a blessing, but so was the brief rain that came just before the reception. White Motion Films and Laura Leigh Photography artistically captured us laughing and running for cover through the drizzle. The significance of our union made the day surreal for us, and the celebratory vibe carried through to the very end of the day.
The most fulfilling part of my wedding was walking down the aisle. I had done a great job at keeping the tears back during the preshoot. Walking into the chapel, with my hand on Papa’s arm, I was pleased that I had kept it together. But about five steps down the aisle … waterworks! The tears came, and they came in streams, streams of joy. I was overwhelmed with emotion at that point – emotion about our story and our journey to that point, and the realisation that I was walking towards my best friend and husband- to- be.
My wedding dress was Lenit by Pronovias. The ballerina in me had a tulle dress in mind, but when I tried on this alllace gown, it fascinated me. The lace has a timeless beauty about it, and the crystal gemstone embroidery all over makes it spectacular. The dress is fitted with a dropped waist, which is flattering for my body shape, and the volume of the flared skirt and generous train made me feel like a real bride. The high lace neckline added to the uniqueness of the design.
Thethemeformyweddingwas“simplistic elegance” as those are characteristics that appeal to both Kat and me.
For us, less is more. Our theme was about comfortable beauty, and I think that came through on the day.
If I had to change one thing about my big day, it would be its duration. Other than the fact that it all really does go by too quickly, I would have loved to have spent more time on the dance floor, getting down to the brass band.
The song that best sums up my wedding day is Nothing Like Your Love by Hillsong United because, for Kat and me, for the day even to be possible was a show of God’s love for us. The song is so significant to Kat that he chose it as his chapel entrance song. But if you were to ask anyone else what song would best sum up the day, they would probably say Pharrell Williams’ Happy, because, honestly, after the initial waterworks, I was smiling from ear to ear.
The most touching speech was by my dad. Not so much because of what he said, but rather because Papa was standing there, overjoyed, peacefully releasing his mosetsana and sending us off with his blessing. We spent our honeymoon – a gift from my parents – at Langebaan and soaked up the stunning, serene views
“OUR BIG DAY WAS GLORIOUS. IT HAD BEEN OUR PRAYER THAT GOD BE THERE AS PART OF OUR WEDDING, AND ON THE DAY, IT WAS LIKE HIS GLORYWAS EVERYWHERE. WE SENSED IT.”