A MOVING MEMOIR BASED ON AN ABUSIVE CHILDHOOD, DEPRESSION AND STRUGGLES

I decided to share my personal journey because in 2016, I started questioning what my purpose was. I figured, let me talk about my journey — specifically transitioning from female to male. I wanted others, who may be facing similar obstacles, to be encouraged by my story. Becoming Him is about the human spirit and pursuing your authentic self.

I started writing the story but paused when I realised that I’d be delving into realities that some families weren’t ready to face. I had a long converstaion with my maternal family, whom I have a great relationship with. They helped me piece myself back together after my failed suicide attempt. Their support helped me realise that I needed to tell my story, no matter the backlash.

Writing helped me realise I wasn’t bitter anymore. I don’t loathe my parents anymore. Instead, I’m in the process of forgiving them and at a point where I want to tell an honest story and inspire others. I’m not certain what total forgiveness feels like, but I’m no longer angry.

I informed my family of my plans to transition after I’d started taking the hormones. I sent those I could an email and had a telephonic heart-to-heart with my grandmother. She was 90 at the time — in 2010. I expected the worst reaction from her but she simply told me to live my life to the fullest, and to take good care of myself.

The one message I’d like people to take away from the book is that we are all here for a specific purpose, and have a limited season. I pray that whoever picks up the book will choose to live — whatever ‘living’ means to them. If you’re non-binary, be the best non-binary person that ever lived — but don’t lose your core.