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Sex – Hot Baecation Sex

Slip away for a getaway and enjoy the thrill of getting it on between hotel bed sheets

- By AYANDA NKONYANA

Have you ever noticed how hotel sex just seems that much better than when you’re home? It’s because there’s just something about a change in scenery that makes sex adventurou­s and super hot. “Being out of the usual environmen­t encourages couples to be naughty. Holidays offer couples an opportunit­y to feel liberated, at least for the duration of the vacation, to experiment and let it all hang out! This is good for the relationsh­ip,” says Phindile Zungu Grootboom, a Durban-based relationsh­ip counsellor and co-author of Love Isn’t For Cowards. With that in mind, let’s delve into some of the reasons why vacation sex is so much better.

YOU HAVE ALL THE TIME TO YOURSELVES

Holidays are a time to let loose! When on holiday, you’re more relaxed because you’re away from your usual routine. Once you’ve escaped the humdrum of everyday

life, you can focus all your attention on your partner and be more in tune with each other physically, spirituall­y and emotionall­y — a more powerful sexual experience is sure to result. Plus, a morning spent in bed is a whole lot easier when you don’t have to run off to work. “It’s not like you’re squeezing in a quickie before work or having sex while trying not to fall asleep after a long, busy day at work. You literally have nothing else to do apart from helping each other reach the big ‘O’, and then to do it all over again,” Zungu Grootboom says.

EVERYTHING SCREAMS SEX

Getting your freak on is often the last thing on your mind when you get home after a stressful day at work. So time away frees you to have sex as and when you like. If you’re the type of couple who only makes love in bed in the dark, then it’s time for change. It’s amazing what a comfy reading chair in your hotel can do to revive your sex life. And what about the floor? That carpet is there for a reason, right? That’s an open invitation right there. You’re ‘off the clock’ so you can have sex whenever and for however long you want. At home, you tend to follow a routine, but on vacation, all bets (and clothes) are off. Make this the time to experiment with different times of the day instead of being limited to having sex only at night, says Monwabiso Grootboom, who’s also a relationsh­ip counsellor. He adds: “[Your man] also has an opportunit­y to prove himself with that second and third round that he always fails to fulfil back home.”

YOU TRY NEW THINGS

A holiday offers the chance to try new experience­s. If you’ve been yearning to try sex toys or different positions, this is your opportunit­y to experiment. Let your inhibition­s go out the window. Makabelo Motaung, a social and dating coach based in Alberton, says holidays are about creating new sexual experience­s. “Make sure you get the most out of your special ‘alone time’. Enjoy some spontaneit­y. Savour every experience and feeling,” Motaung says, adding that you’ll get to see the naughty side of your partner because, at home, many people hold back. This heightened passion can make sex more fun. In a new place, adventure comes naturally, and some intimacy and excitement provides a much-needed boost to your relationsh­ip. Sometimes, when you’ve been dating for a while, sex can become tedious. When you’re away from home, you could park the car on the side of the road and get steamy. No one knows you, so go wild! Vacations remind ourselves of “us”, says Grootboom. He continues: “Travelling to a new place automatica­lly comes with a sense of adventure. You’re seeing new things, eating new foods, perhaps even hearing foreign languages. It’s the right time to try those positions you know wouldn’t work back home because he’ll scream like a baby or she’ll wake everyone up!”

YOU HAVE NO DISTRACTIO­NS

With no fear of kids walking in on you or worrying that the neighbours might come knocking on your door, you can scream as loud as you want and even talk dirty. Plus, the best part is you have someone to clean up the mess afterwards. If you can get away with leaving the curtains open, you might even enjoy the moonlight peeping through the window. “When couples are confident no kids will suddenly storm into their sanctuary uninvited, it makes them feel more liberated and open to try new things,” Grootboom explains.

YOU DRESS SEXY

Ladies! If you’ve never worn lingerie for your partner, now’s the time to do it. Ditch the comfy t-shirt and doek combo. People dress sexy on vacation and the sensual appeal of lingerie will make your man go wild. “You don’t dress up all that much anyway. Unless you have a themed formal dinner date, which is very rare, you dress and cover yourself far less on vacation than when you’re at home,” Grootboom says. “A woman’s revealing outfit usually spells ‘trouble’. And this is an opportunit­y for her to ensure she invites the ‘trouble’ with that new and sexy lingerie,” he adds.

YOU FEEL CLOSER TO YOUR PARTNER

Not only do you feel mutually exclusive to one another, but also a lot closer to your partner, Grootboom continues. “It takes a certain amount of comfort to go away with a partner, and even the simplest travel tasks can translate into a deeper bond that displays itself in emotional and physical intimacy.” And of course, the closer you feel, the more likely it is you’ll have closer, more meaningful sex. “The importance of intimacy, both emotional and physical, in a relationsh­ip is that it draws the two of you together in body and soul. It helps bind your connection and makes both partners feel secure in each other. When it’s withheld, the relationsh­ip typically dies,” he adds.

A NEW ENVIRONMEN­T IS EXCITING

When it comes to amazing sex, it’s all about keeping things interestin­g. “Being in an unusual and fresh environmen­t pumps up the sex drive all over. The “new” furniture, the different ambience and change of scenery all make sex feel different and more appealing. But, what happens when you’re back home? Don’t let it become all boring again once you’re back in your familiar routine.

To keep the excitement of the holiday sex alive, integrate it into your everyday lives. “Bringing that kind of feel-good factor back in your suitcase isn’t easy. But you can try small things like buying new bed linen and adding romantic touches such as freshly cut flowers and scented candles,” Motaung suggests. And, wear as little clothes around the house like you did your holiday, she adds. “Send the kids away more often, have date nights and switch the phone off more often," Motaung concludes.■

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