RATSHEFOLA AND NDALA-MAGORO OFFER TIPS ON RESOLVING INTIMACY ISSUES

Take the zero negativity pledge. Whatever happens, never ever criticise your partner or put them down about their sexuality, in any shape or form. Phrases like “you come too early” or “you’re too dry” are hurtful. This is a big passion killer, with great potential to destroy any relationship.

Remain consistent, in and outside the bedroom. You can’t only whisper sweet nothings in the bedroom, and be nasty outside of it. A couple should always aim to be same in and out of the sheets.

Create a safe and loving space for communication. Because talking about sex makes us vulnerable, it’s important for a couple to express themselves and listen to each other in a supportive way.

Trace the root cause of any intimacy challenges in the relationship. Oftentimes, couples resolve issues on the surface. An example will be infidelity, or using alcohol, drugs or pornography to resolve psychological or biological issues — these are temporary solutions. In other instances, low libido could be a result of life stressors. It is important to seek professional help, and there is no shame in it.