SHOULD I GO OR STAY?

Relationship expert, Makabelo Motaung, offers questions to ask yourself in deciding if bad sex is a deal-breaker.

What are your non-negotiables? Where do you rate sex on your list of priorities? If it features nowhere, then you’re most likely one of those people who wouldn’t mind being in a relationship where the nookie is not good.

How in touch are you with your sexuality? The more in touch you are with your wants and desires, the more mediocre sex will affect you. If it is high on the list of your priorities, then obviously a relationship that doesn’t cater for your sexual needs won’t work for you.

What is good sex? Do you consider having an orgasm good sex, or is it based on the connection you have with that person? Communication can solve a lot of things, including bad intercourse. A lot of people settle for bad sex not because they can’t be taught, but because they are not communicating their sexual needs.

How transparent are you? Openness is key. People need to invest in their physical relationships before things get to a level where they’re unhappy. Bad sex can be fixed, bad communication causes problems between couples.