Sex – Making ‘Big ’ Work

So, your man’s packing large down there? Congratulations! Below are some tips to help him use his package well, and so sex doesn’t feel like your cervix is being torn in half [chuckles]!

Right at the top of ‘male talk’ topics that get most women’s tongues wagging is cheating, followed closely by small penises. In my mid-twenties, I recall a friend relaying — quite frantically and disappointingly — how she felt cheated because her new boyfriend’s penis was “literally the size of a button mushroom!” Ewu, kodwa we are ruthless yazi! “Does he understand how much effort it takes to get undressed? If only it was possible for women to demand their sex back,” she continued, her blood pressure seemingly rising with each recollection of the night’s details. Women often go on about small penises as though finding a well-endowed dude is the equivalent of finally reaching the promised land. That, unfortunately, isn’t always the case.

Some guys think packing large is all they need to knock a woman off her feet, and thus put in ‘dololo’ effort between the sheets.

HOW YOU USE IT MATTERS Some experts believe that the trick to sheet-tearing sex with a well-endowed guy is to control how deeply he penetrates you so that sex doesn’t feel like a punishment. “Since everyone’s bodies are so different, you have to experiment to find positions that are more comfortable [and also] the more foreplay that’s happening, the better the experience!” says American porn actress and sex educator Jessica Drake in article on AskMen.com. She goes on to caution: “If he’s larger in size, especially in length, remember that with

positions like spoon, doggy, missionary, the higher up the woman’s legs are, the deeper the penetration — which may be unpleasurable for some. So, depending on your needs and level of arousal, choose your positions accordingly.”

BRUISING OF THE CERVIX

The cervix sits at the top of the vaginal canal, about a centimetre away from the vaginal opening. So, think of the cervix as the watchdog that stands between your uterus and vagina. Now, you may be wondering how on earth one could possibly get bruised that far up.

Healthline.com states that, “the cervix can bruise during deep penetration with a penis, dildo, or any other object.” Positions that allow for deep penetration like doggy style, the cowgirl and anvil are usually the culprits in this case. *Side note: Deep penetration is synonymous with sensational orgasms. However, the damage is nothing life-altering and usually comes in the form of bleeding, spotting, back pain and nausea in worst cases. These symptoms usually go away on their own and don’t really require medical intervention, according to

Healthywomen.com experts. Good sex boils down to honest communication!