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Woman & Home (South Africa) - - Family Life -

Pre­pare early and re­hearse roles. In the same way that peo­ple start buy­ing Christ­mas presents early, get your­self ready for how things will be.

Take own­er­ship of your feel­ings. It’s our thoughts that con­trol them – no one holds sway over your mind apart from you.

Tweak old habits. Rather than ev­ery­one stay­ing to­gether in your par­ents’ house for three nights, would a low-key lunch at a restau­rant work bet­ter? Christ­mas ri­tu­als fre­quently get frozen in time – and there’s of­ten a lack of ne­go­ti­a­tion be­tween fam­i­lies about what they ac­tu­ally want.

Re­mem­ber that, re­gard­less of how an­noy­ing one of your loved ones might be, you can’t con­trol their be­hav­iour. But what you can do is change your re­ac­tion to it; if you don’t re­act in the same way, the be­hav­iour pat­tern is bro­ken.

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