1 The di cult mother-in-law

Woman & Home (South Africa) - - Family Life -

Is your re­la­tion­ship with your other half’s mom more fraught than the hours of driv­ing on the high­way to get to her house? Per­haps you feel that she crit­i­cises your par­ent­ing style or shows no in­ter­est in your life. “Look at your own role when deal­ing with a tricky mother-in-law. How can you make your re­la­tion­ship more man­age­able? That’s the bit you can work on,” says Hilda. “Do I need to ask her more ques­tions about her­self? Do I need to push back if she’s be­ing un­rea­son­able?”

If your mother-in-law is serv­ing up a side of snide with the spuds, ther­a­pist Re­becca Mccann rec­om­mends bor­row­ing this mind­ful­ness tech­nique: “Take a minute where you con­cen­trate on your breath. No­tice your in­hala­tion and ex­ha­la­tion – by mak­ing your breath­ing your fo­cus, it gives you time to tell your­self that even though she is mak­ing you feel in­ad­e­quate, it doesn’t mean you are in­ad­e­quate.”

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