Out on bail

Women's Health (South Africa) - - LOVE + LI FE -

If this sce­nario sounds com­pletely for­eign and your own plan-keep­ing eti­quette is more in line with the so­cial rigour of a 1950s royal, you’re the ex­cep­tion – or you’re de­lud­ing yourself. Data out of the UK shows that the av­er­age Brit fol­lows through on just 50 per­cent of their plans. And while there’s no sim­i­lar data avail­able for SA, you can bet we’re in the same league. Per­haps more sur­pris­ing is that, while flak­ing may de­liver a de­li­cious short-term pay-off (couch + PJs + ShowMax = bliss, after all), the con­stant, seem­ingly in­nocu­ous mak­ing and break­ing of so­cial plans isn’t do­ing your health any favours. “It’s be­com­ing an epi­demic,” says Dr An­drea Bo­nior, psy­chol­ogy pro­fes­sor and au­thor of The Friend­ship Fix: The Com­plete Guide to Choos­ing, Los­ing and Keep­ing Up With Your Friends. “And the more so­cially ac­cept­able this can­celling of plans be­comes, the more peo­ple will do it, re­gard­less of whether they like how it’s mak­ing them feel.” For all the ex­pert cor­rob­o­ra­tion that the strug­gle is real, it hasn’t al­ways been this way. Tell any­one over the age of 50 you can­celled on your bestie with three hours’ no­tice be­cause you re­alised a new episode of Ray Dono­van was ready on Catch Up and they’d be hor­ri­fied. That’s not to say we’ve


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