WAS IT JUST A HOLIDAY ROMANCE?

During the holidays I met a stunning guy and we hit it off immediately. He’s studying law and I’m studying psychology and we’re both committed to having a career. We live in different towns and study at different universities.

In the three weeks that we had together I thought we’d fallen desperately in love – at least I did. And I thought he felt the same way. But now that we’re back in our respective homes he sounds uninterested and told me that we should date other people.

What am I going to do? I really fell head over heels in love with him and I don’t want to date other guys. Leslie, email If a man is really into you, then he’ll make that very clear no matter the circumstances. If he’s not, then unfortunately there’s nothing you can do about it – no matter how desperately you love him (or think you do).

I’m sure he had a wonderful time with you during the holidays and at the time was caught up in the romance. But then reality hit him when he got home. Rather than stringing you along he’s been honest about wanting to date other women because he’s not ready to settle down in a relationship with one woman. That’s to be commended.

It’s natural that this will be difficult for you to hear as you really feel you love him, but it will get easier. Your broken heart will be healed – not by moping and crying yourself to sleep, but by carrying on with your life and dating other guys.

Unfortunately some people can be fickle, and maybe he was. This is understandably hurtful but it’s just another lesson of life to be learnt. Whatever you do, don’t get caught up in wondering about what could’ve been if he felt the same way about you. That will only make it harder to move forward.

If he does contact you again, play it cool. And if you’re ever in the same town, try to avoid seeing him. Any interaction with him in the future is likely to once again lead to heartache for you.