SHE’S PRETENDING I BROKE UP WITH HER

Q I was going out with a woman for a really long time. One day in late November I had a prayer meeting at my house that I didn’t tell her about. My sister told her about it, which I wasn’t aware of. My girlfriend stopped communicating with me and stopped messaging me on WhatsApp, but I still send her messages every day.

Her last message to me was this: “Anyways I’m not standing in your path babes – it’s fine – I accept that you want to end it and I accept that it’s over. Thank you for everything. You should have told me though. It would have been the decent thing to do. Good luck and I wish you all the happiness in the world.”

I never said it was over or that I was ending our relationship. I still love her and miss her a lot. What should I do? How do I get her back? Sheren, email A It seems she’s simply changing the facts to suit herself. She’s probably pretending it was you who broke up with her because it was a convenient way for her to end the relationship. Perhaps she’d been thinking about it for a while and saw the prayer meeting as an excuse.

Send her a message telling her you love her and you didn’t end things with her. Surely you can have a prayer meeting at your house without asking her permission to do so?

If she doesn’t respond to your message you’ll have to accept she’s no longer interested in you.