MY WIFE’S DARK SIDE FRIGHTENS ME
Q My wife and I recently attended a posh event and while we were there a man I don’t know came up to me and told me she’s worth paying for.
I kept my cool and chatted with him – which is how I discovered my wife is working as a prostitute. She was unable to deny it later when I confronted her.
When I asked her why she’s doing this (we certainly don’t need the money as I have a good income), she told me she’s addicted to sex and although we have a good sex-life it’s not enough for her and her craving led to her prostituting herself.
She also told me she’s addicted to the idea of being “used” by men, which for the life of me I can’t understand. I’m so shocked that I don’t know what to do.
I love my wife but abhor what she’s doing. It has made me lose all respect for her. What should I do? Barron, email A Your wife has serious problems which are putting her health and life at risk – not to mention the happiness of her marriage. Being addicted to sex is a mental illness. Some people have sado-masochistic tendencies and play these out in sexual games with their partner, but your wife is playing it out in a far more dangerous way.
You have some serious introspection ahead of you. Do you love your wife enough to really try to understand her problem? Are you willing to help her try to solve it without being angry with her?
Your feelings are bound to be complex, so it might help if you consult with a psychologist to work through it all and figure out if you can carry on with this relationship.
In the meantime, whether you and your wife choose to get divorced or not, she needs psychological and possibly even psychiatric help. With sexual deviances, hypnosis is often helpful in accessing the workings of the subconscious mind.