SHE’S A HEARTLESS WOMAN

I’ve fallen in love with a cruel and heartless woman who enjoys flirting with other men when I take her out. She’s always telling me that other men desire her and want her.

When we go out for dinner she also goes out of her way to choose the most expensive dishes and she expects me to spoil her and treat her extravagantly on weekends.

She really is a stunningly beautiful woman and it makes me feel good when we go out and I can see that other men are looking at her and are envious of me. But I don’t like it that she’s so materialistic and openly flirts with other men.

How can I handle this situation and cope better with her being so heartless? Jack, email

You need to ask yourself if this is really the kind of relationship you want. She seems to be toying with you and using you.

If she truly cared about you she wouldn’t try to play you off against other men, and she wouldn’t make a point of choosing the most expensive dishes on the menu. She also wouldn’t expect you to spoil her all the time.

While this woman seems to be with you simply to have a good time, you’re also part of the dynamic – what you get out if it is the enjoyment of having other men envy you.

The bottom line is that neither of you is really in it for the relationship.

It would be best to end it now. No matter how beautiful she is, it’s not worth it if she has no real affection for you. And you shouldn’t be with someone simply to have some arm candy.