WHY DO I GET DUMPED ALL THE TIME?

I’ve never had a problem finding women to go out with me. At first they seem to like me, but the problems start once we get into a serious relationship. After a few months every woman I’ve entered into a steady relationship with has dumped me.

I believe that when you’re committed to someone the two of you should do everything together and spend as much time together as possible. And they always tell me how much I spoil them and try to meet their needs, but then they dump me.

Why does this keep happening? Graham, email

It’s quite likely the problem is that you’re smothering them and don’t give them the freedom to be themselves and do the things they’re interested in. We’re all individuals with our own interests and friends, and this is the case even when you’re part of a couple. Don’t stifle your partner and make them feel like they’re in a prison.

A healthy relationship doesn’t come from doing everything together or spending all your spare time together. It comes from mutual respect and trust.

You’ll obviously have shared interests and spend time together, but you should each have the freedom to spend time with your own friends, pursue your own interests and also have some time alone.