YOU (South Africa)
SCIENCE DOES SAY . . .
In contrast to the myths, research has shown that these traditional beliefs about relationships actually do ring true
A couple who uses the ‘we’ word = a couple that’s more in sync. Also, these couples are usually better able to resolve conflict. The study, from California-based researchers, discovered that couples who emphasise their separateness by regularly using words such as I, me and you instead of we are more likely to be unhappy in their relationship. A couple who splits the housework = a happy couple. This is according to a Canadian study, which found that if each partner takes on between 40 to 60% of the housework and childcare, as well as sharing responsibility for earning money, they wind up happier.
A couple who have more in common are more likely to last the distance. Opposites might attract but in the long run it takes a lot more than love to keep a couple together. Last year, Australian researchers found that differences in age, the desire for children, work ethic and consumption of alcohol and cigarettes were the biggest factors that increased the likelihood of a relationship breakdown.