I HAVE A SECRET JOB AS AN ESCORT

Q I think there’s something seriously wrong with me. I’m addicted to sex. My husband and I have been married for a year and he earns a lot of money, so I don’t have to work. Without his knowledge I joined an escort agency, and of course sex is part of the deal.

I find my secret life exhilarating and can’t wait for my husband to go to work so I can also go “to work”. I love meeting different men and having them make love to me. It makes me feel wanted and sexy.

But I’m worried my husband may catch me out because we recently went to a function and one of the men I’ve been with was there and gave the impression that he knew me. He wanted to talk to me, which my husband found strange and upsetting.

How can I make sure my husband does not realise what I am doing? Jessie, email

A You are indeed addicted to sex and the thrill of having sex with strange men. But your secret life is risky.

There is the possibility of your husband finding out what you are doing, which will have a devastating effect on your marriage.

Besides this, there is also the danger that comes with meeting up with strange men in places that are unsafe. You could be assaulted by a man who has poor impulse control or you could get a sexually transmitted disease which you could transmit to your husband.

You are essentially playing Russian roulette with your life. It is very important that you realise how serious the potential consequences are.

You need to consult a psychologist as soon as possible to work on your addiction, with the aim of living a normal life.

If you don’t do this, your husband is likely to find out about your secret life at some point and your marriage will probably not survive.