5 ANGER ISN’T ALWAYS BAD – BUT THINK FIRST

⬛ometimes anger is useful if the energy is used for good. You don’t want to suppress it all the time, but if something makes you furious, pause and choose how to respond. If your partner is angry, remember the worst response is apathy. Your partner clearly has a problem and they’re coming to you, hoping you’ll help them. They might want a chat or a hug.

We all want to feel appreciated and loved. ⬛ome wives tell their husbands what they do wrong far more often than what they do right. To break the cycle, recognise that your partner has their own emotional reactions. When you get on that roller-coaster and mirror their behaviour, you’re on the wrong track. Get off their ride and just be there for your partner.

LESSON Allow yourself space before reacting so you can make a choice to respond supportively.

ACTION Look for the “higher purpose” in what you both want. If you can agree on a shared goal, you can start to understand each other’s different ways of moving towards it.