HANDLE SEPARATION ANXIETY CORRECTLY
Previously it was believed that picking up a child immediately when she cried would “spoil” her and cause her to cry more often. However, the opposite is true. Actually, the fewer anxiety-provoking experiences babies have, the sooner they develop a solid sense of security – and then they need to cry less.
Dr Erika Parker, a psychologist from Johannesburg and mother of three tots under six, explains the value of attachment: “The first two years of a child’s life is when the attachment foundation is laid and if a mother does not react to her child’s needs, the child learns that the world is an unsafe and unfriendly place. This will affect him or her for the rest of their lives. It is understandable that Mommy cannot be around baby 24/7, however, when you are together, build a secure attachment by reacting to her needs within a couple of minutes. If you have to leave baby with someone, ensure that there are enough assistants in order to react immediate to the needs of each child. The caregivers should be able form an emotional connection with the children.”