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Does your toddler throw a scene when it's time to wash his locks? Here's how to deal
well aware that your toddler isn't always a logical, deeply thoughtful being. Once that little noggin becomes unhinged, none of your arguments and negotiations will help one little bit. It takes just one bad shampoo (like just a tiny little drop of water in his eye) to make him as stubborn as a donkey. And then you'll be sitting with your own head in your hands about the child who is usually so fond of splashing in the pool, but gives the shampoo and the showerhead a wide berth.
STEP 1: STAY CALM AND BE FIRM
You're the parent, and your child is very finely attuned to your emotions. If it looks like you're going to hesitate, you've already lost the battle. Stick to your guns and don't allow him to manipulate you. Hair-washing day should not become a power struggle. Speak calmly and firmly but still lovingly and with respect for your child. Your consistency about the matter is very important – if you stand strong, it will be easier for your child to accept that washing hair is non-negotiable.
STEP 2: SHOW EMPATHY
Remember, all the drama is also no fun for your little one. He's not busy being naughty or doing it on purpose. In his world, clean hair is just not as important as him being comfortable in the bath. It's difficult for adults to understand their children's fears, but it doesn't mean their emotions about the matter are invalid. So don't be rough and simply pin your child down in the bath – it will only make matters worse.
STEP 3: LOWER YOUR STANDARDS
You really don't have to wash his hair every second day. Once a week is fine, and in winter, when your child sweats less, you can even stretch it to once every 10 days. Inspect his head and scalp, and if it's clean, leave him be.
IDENTIFY THE PROBLEM What part of the washing process is the problem? Is it the initial wetting of the hair, applying shampoo, or the rinsing? Chat to your little one about it – maybe when you're in the car and calm about it – so that you can come to understand what it is that's bugging him. Some kids fear the feeling of water on their face or drowning, while for others it's the stinging of the eyes, and others fear the showerhead like a cobra. At what point does your child start protesting? It will give you an idea of where the problem lies, so that you can think of an alternative. If your child doesn't like the showerhead or a jug, he might prefer lying back in shallow water. A facecloth that he holds over his face himself can help with shampoo stinging, or buy a shampoo visor at the chemist.
STEP 5: HAVE A STRATEGY Make it a competition:
If your little one has a competitive streak, it can help. See how fast you can complete the process, for instance. Set a stopwatch and see if you can beat it. Or set a challenge, like that he's only allowed to moan or protest six times, and then you can count down. Bath or shower together: Most toddlers love having their ma in the tub with them. The more relaxed atmosphere and the fact that you're in there with him and not towering over him can make it easier to do the deed. You can also take turns and give him the chance to wash your hair, so that he can see how it works. You can also try taking him into the shower with you – for some kids, this works better, especially if you sell it as a big treat or adventure. Fantasy: Bring a doll into the bath, and first demonstrate exactly how you'll be washing. Take turns with the doll. You can also play swimming games, or make funny hairstyles with the shampoo foam. Reward chart: Once you've made progress, you can start with a reward chart. For every drama-free wash, your child gets a sticker, and if he gets five stickers, you go out for ice cream. YB