I do not want to cut the umbilical cord.
My wife wants me to be present at the birth, but the closer the due date gets the more nervous I become. What if I disappoint her? Will I really be able to help her? The thought of blood freaks me out and I really do not want to cut the umbilical cord. How do I tell my wife? She is so excited that we will experience this life-changing moment together.
Be excited with her! One of the most memorable moments in a man’s life is when he sees his little one and holds him in his arms for the first time.
Be honest with her about your fears and preferences. You are a part of the birthing team, after all.
It is important that you and your wife attend antenatal classes before the baby is born. Here you can discuss the birth with a midwife. Talk about how you can support your wife while overcoming your fears. You will be given a few techniques to help make the birthing process less painful.
Inform the midwife or the doctor about your fears. They will make it easier for you by pointing out a spot where you can stand next to your wife. In this way you do not necessarily have to witness the entire birth. You will still be right next to her to offer comfort and moral support.
The bonding you and your wife will experience during this special time is priceless. It also gives you the opportunity to be a part of the miracle of giving life.
If you do not want to cut the umbilical cord, inform the doctor or midwife in advance and discuss it with your wife. Choosing not to do it will not make you any less a part of the birth. You may become so overwhelmed with excitement that you do it on the spur of the moment anyway!