Your Baby & Toddler - - Feature -

Never hit some­one else’s child. It does not mat­ter how an­gry you be­come or if you dis­ci­pline your own child in this way, which is in any case be­com­ing a con­tentious is­sue. It’s as­sault and it’s il­le­gal.

Ev­ery­one de­serves a sec­ond chance. If the child did some­thing wrong, ask him not to do it again. Ex­plain that there will be a con­se­quence if it hap­pens again. You must then stick to your guns and pun­ish him if he does not lis­ten.

Stay calm. Don’t shout and say things that you will re­gret later on.

Never com­pare the naughty child to your own. “Tom would never do some­thing like that.” The sys­tem of dis­ci­pline in that child’s home might be dif­fer­ent to your own.

Try not to be neg­a­tive. Do not de­mean the other child.

Set a good ex­am­ple. If the child is not al­lowed to jump on the couches, they might won­der why you are stretched out on the couch with your feet up. Chil­dren must know that there are con­sis­tent con­se­quences to bad be­hav­iour.

Don’t make empty threats. If the chil­dren must be pun­ished, fol­low through. If you don’t, this child will un­der­mine your author­ity.

When the child has gone home, ex­plain to your child what his friend did wrong. As your child gets older, he will tell the other child what is al­lowed and what is not.

Cre­ate a lov­ing en­vi­ron­ment for your own chil­dren. When other kids come over they will know what is al­lowed and what is taboo in your home. Chil­dren who are raised with love and re­spect will hope­fully in­stil the same val­ues in their friends.

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