Month 2 Your best birth starts now
The 24-step guide to giving you and Baby the best start ever as mother and child.
Ignore the horror stories. Birth is safer today than it’s ever been, and the risks to both Mother and Baby are small. But a successful birth isn’t just about delivering a physically healthy baby – it’s about having the best possible experience you can. Follow our 24-point guide to give your baby a great start – and yourself memories to cherish.
1 GO FOR ALL THE CHECK-UPS
Even if you’re feeling well, regular check-ups will identify and reduce risks to you and your baby. “A normal, uncomplicated pregnancy should be seen for eight to 10 visits,” says Johannesburg gynaecologist Dr Kiran Kalian.
2 ASK & DISCUSS
At your first visit with your medical practitioner or midwife, discuss your birth plan based on your risks, including birthing options and pain relief. Reassess (and either adapt or confirm) your plan at 36 to 38 weeks, Dr Kalian says.
3 START MULLING IT OVER 3
Think about your birth plan – especially if you’ll want a doula. A doula does not deliver the baby but offers support during pregnancy and labour. A doula stays with you during all the stages of labour, and afterwards for as long as you need her. “Research has shown that doulas are good for supporting Dad too, as it’s really hard to be a loving husband and a labour coach at the same time,” says Irene Bourquin, nurse, midwife and author of The Very Practical Pregnancy Handbook .If you can’t afford a doula, just having a good support system who will be there with you on the day will help. Ask your partner to be by your side, and if they can’t, a family member can be a good alternative.
4 GO TO CLASS
Sign up for a childbirth and parenting course (good medical aids
Give your baby the best chanceto come into the world.
cover part of the cost for this). “This is important for parents to get the right information to make informed decisions, and to be able to ask questions, no matter how silly they may seem,” Irene says. Nearly all of them are offered as an online version. Also see tinaotte.com.
5 READ, READ, READ
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6 MAKE LISTS OF QUESTIONS
Jot down what you’d like to ask your medical practitioner or midwife at your next visit.
Keep this list with you, and add to it every time you think of something you’d like to discuss.
7 EXERCISE EVERY DAY
If you’re keen for a natural childbirth (without medical pain relief or intervention), you’ll need plenty of energy and stamina, so stay fit. “If you can, go to pregnancy exercise classes; if not, walk, swim – and concentrate on keeping your posture correct to avoid backache,” Irene advises. If you weren’t fit before you got pregnant, speak to your doctor before embarking on any exercise programme. Walking is, however, a safe and suitable exercise for most pregnant women.
8 STRETCH EVERY DAY
Practise squatting. This is a great position for natural childbirth and to build up your thigh muscles.
9 GET SOME R&R
Practise the relaxation, visualisation and breathing techniques you’ll use in labour.
10 GO FOR A LOOK-SEE
If you’re giving birth at a medical centre or in a hospital, visit the birthing suite, and meet with the staff in the labour ward. “A helpful doctor will assist your understanding of labour by showing you illustrated diagrams and photos of common items used in the labour ward,” Dr Kalian says.
11 PLAN FOR PAIN
Read up on your pain relief options. Whether you’ll be giving birth at a government or private facility, make sure to find out what pain relief options will be available to you. “Pain relief options may include nothing (natural birth), pethidine, an epidural or nitrous oxide,” Dr Kalian explains.
12 YOU’VE GOT THIS!
Stay calm and trust yourself. Remember that your body was designed to give birth – it knows exactly what to do.
13 PICK YOUR TEAM
Treat midwives and doctors with respect. In return, expect to be treated with dignity (it’s your right), and to be allowed to move around, eat and drink if you want or need to, be provided with pain relief, and be given full and correct information about what’s happening during the labour. “Women in labour are no longer restricted to their beds, or shaved, or given an enema to release poo before labour or subjected to routine episiotomies, a cut from the vagina to the anus,” Irene explains. But you have to follow the hospital rules.
14 STAY FLEXIBLE
If your birth plan has to change because of circumstances, don’t sweat it. While your medical practitioner or midwife will try to honour your wishes, your and your baby’s safety come first, and your doctor may strongly recommend medical or surgical interventions. “Remember, a good experience lasts a lifetime, but so does a bad one – so give your baby the best chance to come into the world and thank you for a great start,” Irene advises.
15 DON’T RUSH BONDING
You’ve spent nine months bonding with your baby in your tummy, and now he’s in your arms. The best predictor of a child’s future wellbeing, health and happiness is the quality of the bond formed in the hours and days after birth. Don’t rush this step, both directly after birth and in the first few days. Spend as much time as you can staring into your baby’s eyes, touching and smelling his skin, and allowing him to cuddle up to you (preferably skin to skin) to experience your breathing and heartbeat.
16 THERE’S GOING TO BE A MOMENT...
Prepare yourself mentally for the transition phase, when the cervix is dilating from 7 to 10cm and most momsto-be want to call it quits. This is when you need additional coaching – when your birth partner or doula should remind you that it’s almost time to push, and then you’ll hold your baby in your arms.
17 PRACTISE SKIN TO SKIN
Healthy babies, including those born by caesarean section, don’t have to be taken away from their parents for any routine procedures. All these can be done at the bedside while the baby is skin to skin (baby on your bare chest). “This encourages bonding, and promotes early suckling and successful breastfeeding,” says Dr Kalian. Discuss this with your doctor before the birth.
18 LET DAD BOND TOO
Skin-to-skin contact with your partner is every bit as important, not only for bonding, but also because good bacteria from your partner’s skin will enter and colonise the baby’s gut, strengthening the baby’s immune system, Irene says.
19 REMEMBER TO DRINK
Get plenty of fluids, and resume your normal healthy diet as soon as possible after the birth. “This assists in breastfeeding and ensures a happy baby,” Dr Kalian says.
20 MAKE YOUR APPOINTMENTS BEFORE YOU LEAVE
Let the hospital staff help you with birth registration and information about vaccinations and follow-up visits.
21 PICK THE NURSES’ BRAINS
Ask questions about baby care including breastfeeding, bathing and changing nappies. “This may be new to you, so get answers before you go at it alone,” Irene says.
22 TAKE IT EASY
You’ll be tired after the birth, and walking and moving about may seem like hard work. Speak to your doctor about medical issues such as bleeding or stitches if you had them.
23 CAPTURE THE MEMORIES
Take lots of pictures including special family pictures that include both parents if your partner is allowed to be present during the birth. Get a nurse or someone else to take them.
24 GET SUPPORT NUMBERS
Before leaving the place of birth, make sure you have contact details so you know who to call if you have, for example, postnatal depression, or need a lactation consultant or want to start with postnatal exercises. ●