5 THINGS NEW DADS NEED TO KNOW ABOUT NEW MOMS

1 SHE DOESN’T FEEL ATTRACTIVE

Her clothes don’t fit, her body is flabby in places it never was before, and she’s leaking constantly. How would you feel? Make a point to tell her she’s beautiful, and remember to tell her what a great job she is doing. Comforting words soothe a new mom more than you know.

2 SHE WILL TAKE OUT HER FRUSTRATIONS ON YOU

Newborns come with so much more than their cute gurgles and squishy cheeks. The sleepless nights, constant nappy changing, and crying on end would get anyone’s nerves shot eventually. New moms can’t become angry with their babies, so they’ll most likely direct their anger at you. Make sure you’re helping as much as you can, communicate with her and encourage her daily. This sketchy time will soon pass, so hold on tight.

3 YOU MIGHT FEEL LIKE

A THIRD WHEEL FOR A WHILE

Your partner is going to be obsessed with your baby, so let her be. It’s her natural instinct to check on him fanatically, question every cry and squawk, and stare at him at length. You might feel a bit spare for some time, but the more you show her love through acts of service, the more she’ll appreciate you. Promise!

4 SHE WANTS TO BE PROTECTED

Now more than ever, your partner is going to need to feel safe. Even if that means knowing when to put a halt on the endless visitors! Make your home a safe and comfortable space, and tone down any talk about crime and major news events. She’s going to feel extremely sensitive, and now that you have a baby to protect and take care of, the last thing she wants to hear about is how the world can sometimes be a scary place.

5 SHE WON’T ALWAYS

KNOW WHAT SHE WANTS

Communication will keep you going through these first few weeks. Brace yourself! Because she’s just given birth, her body is going through major physical and hormonal changes. One of the best ways you can help is by asking exactly what she needs. And even if she doesn’t know, offer her tea, a foot rub, a warm bath, or to take the baby for a while.