There could be seven stages of grief

a) Shock and denial First reaction is the learning of the loss/injury with disbelief. One may deny the reality of the loss at some level in order to avoid the pain. Shock obviously provides emotional protection from being overwhelmed all at once. This may last even for weeks. b) Pain and guilt As the initial shock wears off, it is replaced with an unbearable and unbelievable pain. It is very important to experience the pain fully and not to hide or escape from it by alcohol or drug use.

c) Anger and bargaining

Then comes a stage when frustrations give way to anger and that person may lash out and lay unwarranted blame for the loss/injury on someone else questioning ‘why me’? d) Depression, reflection and loneliness During this stage they finally realise the true magnitude of their loss/ injury and may feel depressed. They tend to isolate themselves, reflect on the association with their loved ones and focus on memories of the past. At a time like that, they may sense a feeling of emptiness or despair.

e) Starting to adjust their life As they decide to move forward in their life without their dear ones, they may find ways & means to be calmer and more organised. Their state of depression too begins to lift slightly. f) Reconstruction and working through When their mind becomes focused, they will find themselves seeking realistic solutions to the problems posed by life. g) Acceptance and hope

It’s then that they learn to accept and deal with the reality of the situation although they may never forget the past. They will try their level best to find a way forward. As they busy themselves, the wrenching pain too starts diminishing. They start finding a purpose & hope for living. Time could be a great healer!