Whilst many worry about what to say to a grieving person, it is actually very important to listen to them

Whilst you should refrain from forcing someone to open up, it is important to let your grieving friend or loved one know that you are there to listen, if they want to talk about their loss. People who are grieving may need to tell the story over and over again. Sometimes in minute detail. Be patient. Repeating the story is a way of processing and accepting the death. With each retelling, the pain lessens.

By listening patiently and compassionately, you are helping your loved one.

Grief is an intensively individual experience. Two people cannot experience it the same way. Accept your loved one’s feelings and let the grieving person know it is ok to cry in front of you or to break down or to get angry. Be genuine in your communication. Don’t try to minimise their loss or provide only simplistic and other unsolicited options favourable to them. Be willing to sit in silence. Simply being in their company will comfort them. Offer your support. Sumithrayo, is ever ready and eager to provide such emotional support to anyone who needs their assistance - whatever their issue may be, free of any charge. Many from all walks of life contact Sumithrayo (with the strength of almost 100 Volunteers), either for face to face chats, or by telephone, letter or email to get solace. Anyone who needs emotional support from them could call on 0112692909, 0112683555, 0112696666 or visit them (no need of prior appointment) at 60 B, Horton Place, Colombo 7 on any day of the year between 9am to 8pm or email :sumithra@sumithrayo.org.