YOUR HUSBAND’S FUNERAL ATTENDED BY WOMEN HE KNEW WHILST HE LIVED!
This is an open-ended sad event where people come as they please or obliged by certain societal undertakings with the bereaved or the deceased.
For that reason both genders are fairly represented in a funeral and no one has to explain the reason for attendance.
As for men, they are forever attending funerals especially if same fall on a weekend.
Whilst they may take their wives along, they like it better when they go there alone asale ekhaya make. Of course the man who has intimated he would be going to attend the vigil might make it in the early hours of the day asatike kutsi bese babhajwa kuphi bobabe.
The other gender, our beautiful sisters attend funerals either by relations or by association.
They will never go to a funeral of anyone they don’t know. Oh no, they do, when they know or in the company of someone who knows the deceased.
Societal Scales is excited by a composition of female mourners or funeral attendants when another woman has lost a husband.
Like the males, they come to the funeral as relatives, associates in business or career, colleagues but also as girlfriend’sex-or current to your deceased husband. Some are of course unbeknown to the bereaved and grieving wife. Others may be.
Culture has it that a woman who has just lost her husband is not supposed to see all the people who come to mourn the demise of the man or attend his funeral. She would be completely covered in a blanket and can only be informed by those close to her who was around to offer condolences or attending the funeral.
Now it was and still assumed that the wife is most grief-stricken of all the bereaved family members thus her face may not be a good spectacle for the public. Or she may not appear to be grieving and thus send the societal tongues wagging insinuating she knows how her hubby died.
For the same measure she is not expected to be engaging with men and looking them straight in the eyes lest an in-law may see a spark of love between the freshly widowed woman and the said guy.
Modernity has modified all that, women today come to their husband’s funerals in thin veiled nets over the face and unless she is facing the floor, she sees everyone around and hears everything said.
That is an imbalance particularly when other women her husband knew whilst he lived are also in attendance. Whilst she is watching, she will see this woman who is also part of the funeral and not just attending!
She will decipher from the way she conducts herself that she is known to her deceased husband in many ways than one.
You see, women your husband knew intimately will not pretend they don’t know him once he is dead especially when they come to the place where his funeral will take place. This one will come crying more than all the souls directly bereaved.
She is conspicuously identifiable by her stylish black wear from the toe to the last strand of her artificial Brazilian hair.
The car she would be driving and something reddish in her dress code or in her hands will spell more grief for the widow. Nangu umgcaki agcamaza ebaleni naye uhamba ngetingcingco for she wants it be known that she also was in the space for the man’s love and attention. She will only come short of greeting the widowed woman, asho nekusti, sisonkhe sisi.
What kills most widows who watch these things is that the strange woman is no stranger to members of the husband’s family noma ngabe yena akamati. She will be well received, overly attended and prominently seated in the tent. She may have a child or two by her side with a splitting image to the late husband.
The woman would have come with all her emotional baggage and wail like a foundling until she faints and assisted to her car. In all this the widow is enduring the spectacle because she is ill-concealedubona konkhe. One widow, having noticed this lady at her husband’s funeral started her investigative moves until she was told where she worked. At the earliest time convenient, she went to her workplace with an intention to attack the woman. Nay.
She got what she had not bargained for. The culprit met her at the door of her spacious office, which itself intimidated the teacher widow waseMdlangala Primary School lofundzisa scripture nesewing.
She hugged her tightly and started crying herself, “Silahlekelwe sobabili sisi kuNhlengetfwa.”She had no choice but to join and also cry and further learn who her husband was to the lady here. You cannot fight a dead man over sins he committed whilst he lived!
Scales will tell you as much, a popular man’s funeral becomes a haven of feminine fashion and the colour black being the theme. Amongst all the women are his potential, incumbent and ex-girlfriends.
They are here to pay their last respects to a man who also touched and moved their hearts,ashadile anemfati kodvwa whom some would be seeing the wife for the first time.
One or two of them like the prominent one, has a child with the man who also is peeping through the crowds of his father’s funeral, a man he possibly may never have met.
A bereaved woman suffers many blows over and above the grief at hand. Each of these women will be known at east to one member of her in-laws and they will even acknowledge the children bangakabikwa even to the family.
Some are doing it to spite the very widow who has lost her husband. In Mahlangatsha, KaGumedze, a scuffle in the yard attracted scores of mourners just leaving the yard. Two elegantly dressed and beautiful women were fighting. They were known to each other and to some family members but not to the widow. Rumour has it that kwaba nekubukana kabi from the tent nekukhulumisana budlabha and one of them waphunyukelwa sandla whereas the other retaliated. Scales is informed they were both separated by the deceased man’s elder sister, who was chiding one of the two, “Ufunani wena LaNgwenya ngoba wakwala bhuti?” The widow was shocked not only by the fight but by the revelation from umkhula wakhe. Others are casually attending the funeral ngoba bete nebafana babo other husbands who escaped the clutches of their bickering wives baphuma ngemnngcwabo only to come in the morning or kutobuka bafana nje for such situations sad as they are can load kwemajongo lokuCute kanjani! The popularity of yourhusband will ever determine the kind of women who would come to his funeral, imisebenti yemuntfu iyamlandzela. As said the place becomes a fashion and style galore of women he retaliated to, his colleagues, associates, acquaintances and of course girlfriends. Eventually his grieving wife would realise she stayed with a man lobekasaphuma lidladla kadzeni!