Liv­ing Your Truth

Sunday Observer - - FEATURES - By Lisa Mon­gelli

Do you live your life to please oth­ers your part­ner your fam­ily per­haps or even your friends? Do you de­fine your­self by what oth­ers think of you? Are you liv­ing in your truth or do you make your life de­ci­sions based on what oth­ers want you to do want you to be? Are you liv­ing life by your prin­ci­ples and be­liefs or are you com­pro­mis­ing who you are to fit in and be part of some­thing? Have you al­lowed your­self to be­come a pris­oner of other peo­ple’s ex­pec­ta­tion and pro­jec­tions of who you are; or are you liv­ing the life you were meant to one of per­sonal free­dom. Has the need to be­long di­min­ished your per­sonal power and de­val­ued who you truly are?

Per­sonal free­dom is an in­alien­able right; to be free and live in your truth is God’s gift to hu­man­ity. Liv­ing in your truth is a choice; we ei­ther choose to be in­trin­si­cally hon­est with our­selves or we be­come a pleaser, a pre- ten­der, a life liar. Some peo­ple are so afraid to em­brace who they truly are that it ac­tu­ally dis­torts their in­ner mir­ror, these peo­ple lose sight of them­selves; but more im­por­tantly they lose the most pre­cious gift a hu­man be­ing has been given the True Self.

Within the con­fines of fa­mil­ial pro­to­col I have seen peo­ple lose them­selves and plunge into such deep de­pres­sion they hardly see their way out of it. When fit­ting in is no longer an op­tion; when we can no longer see our­selves be­long­ing to the tribe life can be pretty har­row­ing.

When the ne­ces­sity of be­com­ing some­one other than your self is the re­quire­ment for be­long­ing to the sta­tus quo one needs to think again. Al­low­ing so­ci­eties petty con­straints or cul­tural re­stric­tions to im­pact you as an in­di­vid­ual, and force you into a life style or re­li­gion that does not suit you can lead to se­ri­ous emo­tional and psy­cho­log­i­cal prob­lems later on.

Par­ents think­ing they are di­rect­ing their chil­dren in the “Right Way” of­ten ig­nore all the child’s nat­u­ral tal­ents and de­sires, and force them into a study or pro­fes- sion that sim­ply does not fit them. I have coun­selled many frus­trated an­gry adults be­cause of this. You must con­sider that per­haps be­ing a Mu­si­cian or an Ac­tor or an Ar­chae­ol­o­gist could end up a Real Job for your child, and to deny them the right of ex­plo­ration or the pos­si­bil­ity of liv­ing out that re­al­ity could make way for an an­gry mis­placed adult. I have coun­selled many whom later in life have changed their ca­reer path sim­ply be­cause their orig­i­nal pro­fes­sion was not the right fit.

To all par­ents I urge you be re­al­is­tic about the per­son grow­ing up be­fore your eyes; the child you are rais­ing and ed­u­cat­ing will one day grow to be an adult. When a par­ent has the fore­sight and wisdom to ac­cept a child, and recog­nise their in­di­vid­u­al­ity when your child’s unique po­ten­tial is given re­spect and ac­knowl­edge­ment you as a par­ent give your child the great­est gift of all. You give your child per­mis­sion to be their True self. With this your child has a bet­ter chance at liv­ing a con­tent and happy adult

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