FIVE WAYS TO GO THE DISTANCE
There is some low-level administration required to keep your friendships on top form – from both/every party. It doesn’t have to be a prescriptive, thrice weekly catch up but every other Saturday afternoon, a screen-to-screen can be rather life-giving. You’ll find that you won’t hang up before 2 h 36 m 55 s because you’re analysing each other’s rogue chin hairs and the state of Ireland’s 8th amendmentoutcome.
02. Makeimpromptu gestures
When you live apart and one of you (or both) is going through a toughtimeofit,youneedtocheck in with each other – beyond your mutually agreed schedule. If your bestie is starting a new job, get someone to leave a note, send some flowers, make a video with people they may not even know but have the right level of clown aboutthem.It’stouching.
Nothing speaks to your soul more than being tagged in a meme of a sausage dog squished in a hotdog bun by your bestie saying ‘this is us after a Friday take away’. Tag your friends in exclamatory posts over the sheer outrage that the Flamingo emoji is yet to be on the emoticon keyboard. Scatological humoured posts are alwaysacrowdpleasertoo.
04. Makethosemilestone moments
There are times when you need to do things IRL. Your constant WhatsAppdialogueneedstocome alive at seminal birthdays (happy 30th in Copenhagen?) or summer holidaysinMykonosala Sisterhood ofTheTravellingPants and the weddings.Alltheweddings.
05. Manageyour expectations
This one can be a life sucker if you’re not both on the same page. Don’t torpedo on your bestie if she falls off the face of the earth because she got married, had a child or changed jobs. It might seem weirdly nefarious when one of you doesn’t seem as committed but when circumstances change, let them recalibrate and figure out wherethey’reat.