A LETTER FROM THE EDITOR
“I’ve had enough of tiresome marketeer speak”
CAN WE ALL PLEASE AGREE to collectively lob the phrase
‘New Year, New You’ into the raging bin-fire of history? Any opposed? No? Okay, thanks. Motion approved, and I appreciate your consensus.
It needed to be done. I’ve had enough of the tiresome marketeer-speak that basically states that come the end the of the year, we have become so fed up with who we are that the only way forward is to reinvent ourselves. Throw it all out, start afresh, buy more stuff, do more things...
Sure, it’s good to take stock of where you are and what you’ve achieved (and how many of those lofty goals you set for yourself last January the you creatively side-stepped), but the idea of a liquid detox or new gym membership, or wearing those quirky socks you received as a gift from an uninspired relative, really isn’t going to make you become the person that you think you should be. And, of course, there is the all-too-rare notion that you might actually like who you are.
That is where we find ourselves at the beginning of 2019 — confronting the rather worrying picture that anxiety among men (or ‘vulnerability’ as it is currently being referred to) is on the rise.
After worrying about our sleep, our exercise, our carbs, our calories, our drinking, our snacking, our meat, our vegetables, the provenance of our meat and vegetables, the number of steps we take, how much time we spend sitting and/or standing and if our iphones are killing us (probably while we sleep), the next step is our actual minds.
We men have never been very good at talking about our emotions — ask any ex-girlfriend, anywhere, ever. But with constant reports detailing suicide becoming one of the leading killers of men under 45, the issue of suffering in silence has never been more prominent.
In ‘The Vulnerability Industry’ (p76) writer Kevin Braddock deep-dives into the current state of the multi billion-dollar men’s mental health industry and examines whether it is simply a case of us needing to talk to each other a bit more.
To help lead us up the path of contentment is Jason Derulo. This month’s cover star is not a man who is shy about sharing his feelings. As he tells me in ‘The Pursuit of Happiness’ (p70) he’s been pouring his thoughts into his songwriting since he was eight years old. According to the man himself, he has never been happier than he is right now. Having built a ludicrously successful music career — and soon to be breaking into Hollywood — he claims the secret to contentment is a strong support network of friends and family. And chocolate lava cake.
I wish there was a more upbeat message to lead into a new year with, but actually by acknowledging the growing issue of men’s mental health and helping both yourself and those around you, us men will achieve significantly more than any thing wrapped in a ‘New Year, New You’ bow. And if you’re cold this winter, we’ll save you a spot next to our raging bin-fire.