STORY TELLERS

A page for readers to share their views, thoughts and stories.

HIGHS TO LOWS

I feel that once the initial high of being in love is over, people tend to not put any effort into the relationship. Time is an investment not most are willing to make. Complacency and lack of sensitivity towards the other person’s need are the weeds that choke the plant of love to death. Reaba Rebecca Thomas

MISUNDERSTANDINGS

A partner may have all the right intentions. But circumstances and unforeseen events may develop, creating misunderstandings leading to falling out of love. Prakash Bhamidimukkula

NOT IF IT’S THE RIGHT ONE

I believe people never fall out of love when it is with right person. The beauty of staying in love is in the quality of time spent together rather than the quantity. Bincy Liza Thomas

LACK OF TOLERANCE

Two reasons: lack of communication, and being judgemental. Dishonesty and insecurities about a relationship may also push people to think that the love in their relationship is fading. No relationship can work without compromise, respect and a let-go attitude. So forget, forgive and move on. Amtesh K Kohli

DEMANDING LOVE

Love is a two-way process. It believes only in giving. Nurture it with compassion and care. It is to be commanded and not demanded. When it is the other way around, people fall out of love. SS Thakur

LACK OF TRUST

Love fails when trust is broken, when they discover that all their feelings had been wasted. It’s very hard to find lasting love, and if you do, that really is a gift from God. Ma Teresa Sanchez Edpan

LOVE IS HARD WORK

Falling out of love can happen when reality strikes, and when you realise that loving a person requires hard work and dedication, especially when you have to live with that person for years. Persis Jason

EGO

No one falls into or out of love. People only fall into and out of infatuation. Most of the people fall out of love because of their ego. Ego and attitude do not exist in a true relationship. Lamiya Siraj

NO APPRECIATION

Falling in love is easy, and falling out of love is easy too. Not feeling appreciated, respected, or valued in the relationship are some reasons people fall out of love Paige Jaque

JUDGING YOUR PARTNER

Love grows where there is acceptance, trust and understanding; the moment you get judged for being yourself, doing what you love or for speaking your mind, love diminishes. Also, the inability to share views openly and the lack of giving each other space makes people fall out of love. Parvathy Jayachandran

THE PILLARS OF LOVE

Trust, respect and care form the pillars of love. People often fall out of love due to the lack of any one or all of them. When communication is sparse, there could be misunderstanding and mistrust. Subramanian K

COMMUNICATION

If people open up and express their true feelings and desires to their loved ones, and make them understand it, they won’t have to fall out of love. I also think that we take our dear ones for granted and not make them our first priority. Sitting down together once in a while, and sharing the good memories that we’ve had, or even flipping through an old photo album can strengthen the bond. Arya Manoharan

BREACH OF TRUST

Trust is what that matters in any relationship. Breach of trust is definitely a red flag for me. Aswany Vimal

CHANGE IN PRIORITIES

As years pass, your priorities will change to raising kids, their education, financial stability, building a house... In that run, you forget to appreciate each other. When value of each other and respect doesn’t exist in a relationship, you feel unimportant and love fades away. Sunanda Mohan

A CHANGED PERSON

The realisation that the person is no longer the same one you had fallen in love with can make you fall out of love. Lack of respect, appreciation, support, being taken for granted are some other reasons for a good relationship to fall apart. Shariqua Adil

COMMITMENT IS THE CEMENT

When you truly love with commitment and sincerity it will not be easy to fall out of love. Sarah Dayal

EXPECTATIONS

A conflict of interest or the inability to put up with the ways of the other could result in falling out of love. Also, pressure to perform to expectations, and the guilt caused by inadequacies may play a role. Sheeba Jojo