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As research suggests over-65’s mental health is deteriorating in the pandemic KATIE WRIGHT finds out how to support your older relatives
AS the government ramps up efforts to halt the spread of the Omicron variant, bringing forward the date by which all adults will have been offered a booster jab by a month, it’s important not to forget about the impact Covid-19 is having in terms of wellbeing.
A recent report highlighted how the pandemic has damaged older people’s mental health and calls for more counselling and bereavement support for over-65s.
The research, which was carried out by The Mental Health Foundation and Independent Age, estimates that as many as 318,000 people in England and Wales over the age of 65 lost their partners between the first lockdown and May 2021.
“The big thing is the sense of isolation – lockdown has had a horrendous impact,” says Lina Mookerjee, BACP senior accredited psychotherapist from Praxis Therapy. “As you get older, you are more vulnerable.
There’s a lot of fear about getting ill and who’s going to look after you.” While health services are beneficial, there are lots of ways we can play our part to support older people, whether that’s family, friends or in the wider community.
Get in touch – and be reliable
When it comes to relatives or friends who may be lonely, contact is key, and in many cases, the ‘little and often’ approach is really helpful. “Make an agreement,” Lina says. “Set five or 10 minutes, the same time either every day or every week,” to visit (if possible) or call. “That can go a long way, because then they’ll go, ‘I’m looking forward to that’.”
And make sure to stick to the plan as far as possible: “If you can’t make it, give them warning – the worst thing is letting them down, because they could have been really looking forward to the contact.”
Encourage healthy choices
Exercise can have a big impact on mood, even if it’s just a stroll around the local park.
“Encourage them to commit to at least a 10 to 15-minute walk every day,” Lina suggests. You could meet up and do it together if you’re nearby, or chat on your mobiles while you both walk. When you’re not chatting, try to inhale deeply and feel the effects of the fresh air.
“Deeper breathing when you’re walking increases your sense of wellbeing and endorphins get released.”
Talk to your friend or family member about what they’re eating and advise them to avoid too many sugary foods, as this can cause “a huge spike in blood sugar levels in the brain, and then a massive drop”, Lina warns, exacerbating feelings of loneliness and depression.
Support charities
There are lots of charities working at both national and local level to help over-65s. You might want to volunteer to take part in Age UK’S telephone befriending service or donate money to help fund a charity’s efforts.
“Find out what’s in your locality,” says Lina, and remember it’s not just money that organisations need.
“It’s good, because there are a lot of people who are vulnerable and don’t have enough food.” Look out for food bank donation points near supermarket checkouts.
Don’t infantilise older people
No matter how you interact with older people, it’s important to treat them with respect and not infantilise them, even when they’re in a vulnerable position.
“What we want to do is celebrate the fact they’ve survived,” Lina says. “Let’s give them credit, because there’s a heck of a lot of wisdom that’s survived this long. Encourage them to tap into it, and don’t sideline them, include them.”
BOOKS marking the Queen’s Platinum Jubilee and a raft of memoirs and some hot debuts all look set to hit the best-seller lists in 2022, experts are predicting.
There are autobiographies from celebrities including Sara Davies from Dragon’s Den and actors Sheridan Smith and Minnie Driver, while political figures bringing out new books include Gordon Brown and Dame Floella Benjamin.
Anticipated fiction big hitters include Elektra (Headline, Apr 28) from Jennifer Saint, whose debut Ariadne is on Waterstone’s shortlist for 2021 book of the year and whose follow-up continues the trend towards the retelling of Greek mythology for a contemporary audience.
“Ariadne is our fifth bestselling hardback for the whole of the year in fiction,” explains Bea Carvalho, head fiction buyer at Waterstones. “Considering the number of high profile authors who had books out in 2021, she’s only been beaten by Richard Osman, Sally Rooney and Kazuo Ishiguro.
“Greek re-tellings have been really popular recently, particularly putting female-centric spins on those familiar tales for a modern audience.”
POPULAR FICTION FAVOURITES
Richard Osman’s third book in his Thursday Murder Club series is due out in September and is as yet untitled – but huge sales are anticipated considering that his second novel, The Man Who Died Twice (Viking), did even better than his successful first instalment.
There’s a novel collaboration between singer Dolly Parton and bestselling thriller writer James Patterson called Run Rose Run (Cornerstone, March 7), which is bound to attract plenty of publicity. It’ll be the usual rollercoaster ride Patterson creates in his fiction, but this time sales should go through the roof with the help of Parton’s huge fanbase.
Book stands will be awash with
Again, Rachel (Penguin Michael Joseph, Feb 17) popular Irish author Marian Keyes’ follow-up to her hit novel Rachel’s Holiday.
“The House of Fortune (Pan Macmillan, July 7) Jessie Burton’s sequel to The Miniaturist, which won book of the year three years ago (and was made into a BBC TV series), sees a return to 18th century Amsterdam and will be a key title in historical fiction,” Bea adds.
LITERARY LEADING LIGHTS
Of the literary heavyweights, Margaret Atwood’s new collection of essays, Burning Questions (Chatto & Windus, March 1) is likely to be a winner, says Bea. The essays cover everything from a financial crash to the rise of Trump and a pandemic. From debt to tech, the climate crisis to freedom; from when to dispense advice to the young (answer: only when asked) to how to define granola.
Other big reads include To Paradise (Picador, Jan 11) from Hanya Yanagihara, following on from her hugely successful second novel A Little Life. This one’s a trio of stories, all set in New York City 100 years apart, offering three alternative versions of the American dream.
“A Little Life was a cult classic and remains a bestseller, so a new standalone is the one booksellers are keen to get their hands on,” says Bea.
“In that category we also have Young Mungo (Picador, Apri1 14) by Douglas Stuart, following on from his 2020 Booker Prize-winning Shuggie
Bain. The book acts as a companion, another tale of tender souls in tough places and what it’s like to be young, gay and in a working class community in 1980s Glasgow.”
Ali Smith has also written Companion Piece (Penguin, April 7) , a follow-up to her Seasonal Quartet. “She’s covered everything from Brexit to Covid and the migrant crisis and this one aims to pull it all together, reflecting on the last turbulent few years,” Bea explains.
RACE AND IDENTITY
“I think there are going to be more books deconstructing the empire in the wake of Empireland: How Imperialism Has Shaped Modern Britain by Sathnam Sanghera and in the wake of Black Lives Matter,” says Caroline Sanderson, associate editor of trade publication The Bookseller.
“One to watch is White Debt (Weidenfeld & Nicholson, Jan 6) by Thomas Harding about the Demerara slave uprising that partly led to the total abolition of slavery.”
News stories so often lead to indepth accounts and another to keep an eye on is Robert Samuels and Toluse Olorunnipa’s His Name Is George Floyd (Bantam, May 26).These reporters for The Washington Post, tell Floyd’s personal story within the context of America’s troubled race history.
It features fresh and exclusive reporting as well as unparalleled access to Floyd’s family and the people who were closest to him.
In fiction, The Love Songs Of W.E.B Du Bois (Fourth Estate, Jan 20) by Honoree Fanonne Jeffers, a story of race and love in America, has already been published in the US to great acclaim – it was an Oprah Book Club pick – and this debut is gathering much interest here.
CLIMATE CHANGE
“There will also be books about the climate crisis and sustainability. That has to be a growing trend and we all have to get on board. A book I’m looking forward to is Birdgirl (Jonathan Cape, Jun 30), a nature memoir by climate activist Myarose Craig, who is famous for her ornithology,” says
Caroline.
Bonnie Wright, the Greenpeace ambassador who played Ginny Weasley in the Harry Potter films, has written her guide to changing your habits to live more sustainably Go Gently: Actionable Steps To Nurture Yourself And The Planet (Greenfinch, April 19).
MEMOIR MADNESS
“The first half of next year is massive for memoirs,” Caroline observes.
“I don’t think I’ve ever seen so many memoirs and I don’t know if it’s because lockdown has given people time to write their story or if it’s because there have been so many difficult and traumatic stories coming out of the times that we’ve been through.”
Celebrity fans should watch for Minnie Driver’s new memoir,
Managing Expectations (Manilla Press, May 12), while Sheridan Smith’s autobiography Honestly (Ebury Spotlight, Oct 14) promises an honest account of her rise to success and her struggles with mental health.
Dragons’ Den star Sara Davies, who recently appeared on Strictly, is bringing out We Can All Make It (Bantam, April 28), chronicling how she went from factory floor to multi-millionaire businesswoman – and how you too can make it big.
Dame Floella Benjamin relives her life, from the Windrush generation to the House of Lords in
What Are You Doing Here (Macmillan, June 23), while Davina Mccall is continuing her Tvthemed documentary in print with Menopausing, (HQ, May 26) a taboobusting new guide.
PLATINUM JUBILEE
Look out for Queen Of Our Times, (Macmillan, March 17), by serial royal biographer Robert Hardman, which features original insights from those who know Her Majesty best, unseen papers, new interviews with world leaders and a fresh perspective on the longest reign in British history,
Continuing the royal theme, Tina
Brown’s The Palace
Papers, (Century, April 26), offers the inside story of the Royal Family since the death of Princess
Diana – from the
Queen’s tightening grip to the defection of Harry and Meghan.
The former editor-in-chief of Tatler, Vanity Fair and The New Yorker, wrote a previous book, The Diana Chronicles, which became a bestseller. “It could be revelations time – the truth and the turmoil,” Caroline predicts.
BBC CENTENARY
While there will no doubt be many televised celebrations to mark the BBC’S 100th birthday next year, The BBC: A People’s History, (Profile, Jan 27) by professor and historian David Hendy should be the definitive written account, Caroline predicts.
DEBUTS
Waterstones is anticipating big sales from Pandora, (Vintage, Jan 27) by Susan Stokes-chapman. “It’s historical fiction set in Georgian London so it blends that narrative with the Greek myth of Pandora, playing into that trend for mythology re-telling,” says Bea.
Netflix has already snapped up the rights to romcom Yinka, Where Is Your Huzband?, (Viking, March 31). By Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, it sees a single 31-yearold British Nigerian woman with a career in the City, who suddenly needs to find a plus one for her cousin’s wedding.
And if you’re looking for new cosy crime read, you may want to bag a copy of popular presenter and vicar The Rev Richard Coles’ first foray into this genre with his debut novel, Murder Before Evensong, (Orion, June 9).