I can’t af­ford twins

Belfast Telegraph - Weekend - - ASK FIONA -

I’ve just had an ul­tra­sound and we’re hav­ing g twins! We are in a panic as we’re strug­gling to make ends meet al­ready. My hus­band has s just taken on ex­tra evening work to com­pennsate for the fact that I will soon have to leave my job. He doesn’t earn much any­way and cop­ing with one child was al­ways go­ing to be hard, but how we stay afloat with two, I have no idea. A friend sug­gested I could get one adopted but I’m not sure I could go through with that. I’m so fright­ened. YL FIONA SAYS: THERE IS HELP OUT THERE Give your­self time to think what to do next and talk to as many sources of help as pos­si­ble, start­ing with your GP.

Con­tact the Twins and Mul­ti­ple Births As­so­ci­a­tion ( tamba. org. uk), a na­tional l char­ity that pro­vides prac­ti­cal sup­port. I sug­gest you also con­tact Ci­ti­zens Ad­vice ( cit­i­zen­sad­vice. org. uk/ ben­e­fits), which has a use­ful sec­tion on all types s of ben­e­fits. In case no­body else has said it though, con­grat­u­la­tions — it won’t be easy, but it will be won­der­ful! My fi­ance and I are go­ing for a hol­i­day. He’s wor­ried me by say­ing as we are not due to get mar­ried yet, it should be okay to have sex with other women while we are there. We are both vir­gins and have agreed to not have sex un­til we are mar­ried. He thinks if he doesn’t get rid of it now, it might re­turn and wreck our mar­riage. Would it hurt if I agreed and might it stop him from stray­ing later? FIONA SAYS: YOU’RE RIGHT TO BE UP­SET I find lit­tle here that makes me think this im­ma­ture man is ca­pa­ble of a lov­ing, trust­ing re­la­tion­ship; you are right to be un­easy. Tackle this is­sue now, prefer­ably be­fore you leave, and cer­tainly be­fore you get mar­ried.

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