Hubby lied about porn

Belfast Telegraph - Weekend - - WEEKEND TV -

I re­cently caught my hus­band look­ing at porn videos on Snapchat. He seems to have been fol­low­ing posts from one par­tic­u­lar girl, who posts very provoca­tive im­ages of her­self.

When I con­fronted him, he lied and said he didn’t know why these things were on his phone, but this is the se­cond time he’s done this. I don’t think I can trust him any­more. FIONA SAYS: IT’S VERY NOR­MAL I don’t par­tic­u­larly like pornog­ra­phy, but it’s been around for as long as peo­ple have been able to make vis­ual im­ages.

A lot of men are turned on by vis­ual im­ages. He’s not cheat­ing and he’s never likely to meet this woman so you need to try and keep things in pro­por­tion.

Per­haps your hus­band lied to you be­cause he was em­bar­rassed. I won­der if your anger and dis­gust isn’t tied up with other is­sues? Do you, per­haps, strug­gle with self-con­fi­dence, for ex­am­ple?

If you have a great re­la­tion­ship oth­er­wise, please don’t let this come be­tween you. It’s not im­por­tant enough to break up a happy mar­riage. My hus­band works long hours and rarely has an en­tire week­end free to be with us, yet his part­ner is al­ways away from the of­fice by 6.30pm and I can’t re­mem­ber the last time he worked at the week­end. He’s not pulling his weight and it makes me an­gry. FIONA SAYS: LOOK AT IT DIF­FER­ENTLY How can you find fault with his part­ner for his per­fectly good work/life bal­ance?

Rather than be­rate this man, might it not serve you bet­ter to per­suade your hus­band to adopt his good ex­am­ple? Ask him to con­sider ways to cut his hours and stress that, if he doesn’t, he risks hurt­ing those he cares about most, his fam­ily.

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