Hubby lied about porn
I recently caught my husband looking at porn videos on Snapchat. He seems to have been following posts from one particular girl, who posts very provocative images of herself.
When I confronted him, he lied and said he didn’t know why these things were on his phone, but this is the second time he’s done this. I don’t think I can trust him anymore. FIONA SAYS: IT’S VERY NORMAL I don’t particularly like pornography, but it’s been around for as long as people have been able to make visual images.
A lot of men are turned on by visual images. He’s not cheating and he’s never likely to meet this woman so you need to try and keep things in proportion.
Perhaps your husband lied to you because he was embarrassed. I wonder if your anger and disgust isn’t tied up with other issues? Do you, perhaps, struggle with self-confidence, for example?
If you have a great relationship otherwise, please don’t let this come between you. It’s not important enough to break up a happy marriage. My husband works long hours and rarely has an entire weekend free to be with us, yet his partner is always away from the office by 6.30pm and I can’t remember the last time he worked at the weekend. He’s not pulling his weight and it makes me angry. FIONA SAYS: LOOK AT IT DIFFERENTLY How can you find fault with his partner for his perfectly good work/life balance?
Rather than berate this man, might it not serve you better to persuade your husband to adopt his good example? Ask him to consider ways to cut his hours and stress that, if he doesn’t, he risks hurting those he cares about most, his family.