I want to get married
In the new year, when I am 22, I will have lived with my boyfriend for four years. We have a lovely daughter and a nice flat, but while we seem happy, I’m worried about the future.
I think it’s important that we get married, not just because it confirms our commitment to each other, but also because it would be better for our daughter. However, he thinks we’re too young to go through a marriage and gets a bit angry whenever I mention it.
Why is he doing this? Can’t he see how important it is? Should I insist on it? FIONA SAYS: AN ULTIMATUM COULD BACKFIRE I am not sure that would help. He has made his current feelings clear and if you try to force change on him it is likely to backfire. It may simply push him into a decision that neither of you seems to want, namely that he leaves you.
That said, I see nothing wrong with getting some clarification about the future. For example, at what point will you stop being too young? And does he see a time when you could be married?