No interest in women
I’ve lost my interest in women completely and I’ve been single my whole life.
It doesn’t really bother me; I’m not gay but I’ve just lost interest in anything sexual because of being heartbroken throughout my life and I think that might have something to do with it.
Should I just not date and be single because it wouldn’t make me happy or should I just have women that are friends? FIONA SAYS: ARE YOU REALLY BEING HONEST ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS? You say you’ve lost interest in women and in the next sentence you say it doesn’t bother you — but it clearly does.
I cannot help but wonder about one thing, and that’s where you tell me you’re not gay and link that to saying you’ve lost interest in anything sexual.
Is that perhaps at the root of your problem? Is your lack of sexual interest in women because you’re denying your feelings for men? Is there something about your background that would make it very difficult for you to be gay?
I’d certainly encourage you to have lots of friends who are women and lots of friends who are men — but also to be honest with yourself about what you do want.
By the sounds of it, that means you want to be in a relationship with someone who cares about you and who you care for.
I think you might need some counselling, so you understand your own feelings a lot better than you seem to at present.
Contact Relate (www.relate.org.uk) and speak to a counsellor to help you sort out exactly what you’re trying to find in life.