She’s jealous of my kids

QI had my daughter when I was 19 and her dad was never in the picture. Things were tough. I had to work long hours to make ends meet, and friends, neighbours and my parents helped out with childcare. She’s now 24 and I am married with two young children. My husband and I have a comfortable life and the younger two have had a lot more in terms of what I’ve been able to give them, both materially and in terms of the time I have for them. I tried my best when my daughter was little, but my circumstances are just so different now. The trouble is, every time I give my younger children anything, she makes a point of telling them how little she had when she was their age. I always invite her on holidays, or any day trips we go on, and she gets more expensive presents than the younger two. I feel like she’s making my younger two feel guilty for being born at a different stage in my life when it’s not their fault. How should I deal with this?

AI imagine that the most difficult part of your eldest daughter’s experience is not the gifts or the holidays but the fact that your younger two children are growing up in a household with two loving parents who are able, due to your changed circumstances, to be more physically and emotionally present than you were able to be as a young single mother. Unfortunately, when it comes to parents, we do miss what we never had. So even though she has never had a relationship with the person who helped to biologically create her, a part of her will feel a deep loss at the fact that her father never showed any interest. I’m not saying you didn’t do a wonderful job as a young single mother, but there was nothing you