Since school, I’ve had the same two best friends. We’ve all been through so much together, but lately, the other two can’t seem to stand each other. I don’t know if something’s happened they haven’t told me about, but their dislike for each other, to me, seems out of the blue. I’ve never been ‘piggy in the middle’ before, but they’re acting like children… in their 50s! Whenever I suggest dinner, one will go on a rant about how much they’ve ‘gone off’ the other. How do I get my friends back?
Lesley, 51, Dundee
Like you, Lesley, I can never understand why people in their 50s suddenly turn against a relationship that’s worked well for so long and like you say, act like children. The reality is you can’t make them get over their dislike for each other. I’m afraid you can’t always be piggy in the middle, either, so I suggest you meet each of them separately and see how that works. Let’s hope the problem sorts itself out eventually. Of course, Christmas is around the corner, so you never know – peace and goodwill may win in the end!