CHLOE HAD HER WHOLE LIFE TO COME

Mum tells of heart­break after trac­tor hor­ror:

Caernarfon Herald - - FRONT PAGE - Kelly Wil­liams

EV­ERY par­ent’s worst night­mare be­came a re­al­ity for Karen Far­rell when her “beau­ti­ful” daugh­ter, Chloe died in a trac­tor ac­ci­dent.

The 22-year-old was pop­u­lar, happy and “lived life to the full” when ev­ery­thing changed in the blink of an eye.

Days away from pre­par­ing for her next fundrais­ing event for Ty Gobaith Chil­dren’s Hospice, a cruel twist of fate saw Chloe’s fam­ily sud­denly need­ing the char­ity them­selves.

It was through their years of in­volve­ment with the or­gan­i­sa­tion that they knew about the Snowflake Room, which of­fers be­reaved fam­i­lies a tran­quil, tem­per­a­ture con­trolled space to say good­bye to their loved ones in the days be­fore they are laid to rest.

It was there that Chloe, dressed in her favourite clothes with her hair tied up in her trade­mark plaits, that friends and rel­a­tives could light can­dles, play the songs she loved, and spend time shar­ing mem­o­ries in their own time and own way.

Chloe looked “per­fect” and be­ing able to have her daugh­ter close by, gave Karen the strength to carry on dur­ing the worst time of her life.

To­day marks the launch of #ChloesS­tory to raise aware­ness of the Snowflake Room

In an emo­tional in­ter­view, the mu­mof-two, from Conwy, re­called the mo­ment she was given the dev­as­tat­ing news – hav­ing al­ready been touched by tragedy once be­fore, when their dad Ge­off died sud­denly aged just 51.

Karen said: “We lost Chloe’s dad very sud­denly and I al­ways thought one of the worst feel­ings I would ever ex­pe­ri­ence would be to have to tell both of my chil­dren, then aged 11 and nine, that they’d lost their daddy, never re­al­is­ing there would be an even worse ex­pe­ri­ence yet to come.

“Twelve years on, Chloe had her whole life in front of her, we’d re­cov­ered as a fam­ily and she was be­gin­ning to find her in­de­pen­dence.

“We all came through so much and we were just start­ing to think life’s quite nice now when the unimag­in­able hap­pened.”

Chloe had been en­joy­ing a day at the beach with her boyfriend when the vin­tage trac­tor she was driv­ing hit a boat and over­turned at The War­ren hol­i­day park in Aber­soch on May 12 last year.

She had been us­ing the ve­hi­cle to trans­port a jet ski on its trailer be­tween the beach and a chalet after a trip to Llanbedrog. She died of her in­juries. Karen, who still runs her late hus­band’s busi­ness, Crime Preven-Preven­tion Ser­vices in Flintshire,shire, where Chloe worked,ed, added: “Chloe had tak­e­nen the day off to go to thee beach with her boyfriend.

“When I got the call to say Chloe had been in an ac­ci­dent, I had a feel­ing in the pit of my stom­ach and I just knew some­thing bad had hap­pened. ●

“I didn’t even ask whatat the ac­ci­dent was.

“Around 15 min­utes in­toto thethe jour­ney to the hos­pi­tal, I re­ceive­dreceived an­other phone call to say ththey were try­ing to sta­bilise Chloe.

“We needed to turn around and make our way to Stoke Mandeville Hos­pi­tal be­cause that’s where she was be­ing flown by air am­bu­lance.

“I re­call vividly that we had only got one junc­tion fur­ther down the road when we were told it’s too late.”

Karen added: “Peo­ple, who per­haps don’t know Chloe too well, ask me what she was do­ing on a trac­tor. “But my chil­dren had been brought up in Aber­soch. They didn’t play on X-boxes, they were out climb­ing trees and on bikes and loved spend­ing time on the beach, even when the weather was ter­ri­ble. “She was on a trac­tor be­cause that’s how we brought her up. “Chloe was very much a get-up-andgo kind of per­son. She was full of fun and lived life to the full.” As the heart­break­ing news of Chloe’s death be­gang to sink in, Karen couldn’t stand­stand thethe tthought of her vi­brant, healthy­healthy first born in a hos­pi­tal mor­tu­mor­tu­ary or fu­neral home, es­peespe­cially when mother anand daugh­ter should’ve be­been in Lon­don for Ty Gobaith’sG Hearts of GGold fundraiser. “How quickly life turns around,” sobbed Karen, whose fam­ily hhad spent over a decade rarais­ing thou­sands for the chachar­ity. ““II re­mem­ber be­ing at thethe TyT Gobaith ball with ChloeChloe two years ago and watch­ing­watch­ing hher go­ing from ta­ble to ttable,bl chat­tinghtti and laugh­ing to all dif­fer­ent peo­ple and notic­ing how she worked the room. I felt so proud. She was turn­ing into an ab­so­lutely stun­ning young lady. She just got on with ev­ery­body, she had so many friends.” Karen added: “Even now, it’s still very sur­real, it hasn’t hap­pened. “The worst thing as a mum was imag­in­ing where Chloe was in those hours after the ac­ci­dent.

“I couldn’t bear where she was, even more un­bear­able for me was for her to go to – I hate even us­ing the word – a fu­neral home. It’s some­thing you can’t even imag­ine.

“But then, a friend sug­gested I ask if Chloe could go to the Snowflake Room at Ty Gobaith and when they said yes, I could breathe again.

“Be­fore then, I felt claus­tro­pho­bic. I can still feel the whole house clos­ing in on us.

“But when we were at Ty Gobaith, it was nice.

“That one phone call helped elped us all get through the fol­low­ing ng few weeks.”

Karen found her favourite ite photo of Chloe. She was as wear­ing a bob­ble hat and d fluffy jacket with her hair in pig­tails.

The clothes were given to the nurses at Ty Gobaith, who dressed her and did her hair and make up. Chloe looked ● stun­ning. She looked like her­self and over 50 friends ds and rel­a­tives came to say their good­byes.

Some sat with Karen in the pri­vate gar­den out­side the Snowflake Room and cried and laughed about hap­pier times.

Chloe’s best friends came and put an an­gel wing bracelet on her wrist so they could al­ways be to­gether.

They lit her favourite scented can­dles and played her Ed Sheeran CD on re­peat.

“It was so good to be able to be here at Ty Gobaith,” said Karen.

“As trau­matic as it was, hav­ing Chloe’s friends here with me and hear­ing them laugh­ing, jok­ing and shar­ing mem­o­ries about Chloe re­ally helped us all go on. We could have that last mem­ory of Chloe as she was.”

Karen’s aim is to let fam­i­lies know where to turn if the unimag­in­able hap­pens to them as most would as­sume the Snowflake Room would only be avail­able to chil­dren in Ty Gobaith’s care.

In fact, it can be used by any chil­dren in the catch­ment area up to the age of 25.

Cur­rently, three lo­cal fam­i­lies a week face the ag­o­nis­ing pain of los­ing a child but­but atat thethe mo­mo­ment, the char­ity can on­ly­only af­foraf­ford to help one. TyTy GGobaith is hop­ing to rais­eraise over £50,000 through ##ChChloesS­tory to cre­ate a SnSnowflake Lounge next toto the Snowflake Room. AAs part of the cam­paign, friends and fam­i­lyl have been filmed for aa heart­break­ing video inin which they speak ababout how it helped thethem. KKaren added: “You neven­ever think any­thing like thisthis wwould ever hap­pen to you,you, but­but iit hap­pened to us. ““When­ev­erWhen­ever I read about young­sters los­ing their lives in the news, I want to reach out to the fam­ily and tell them about the Snowflake Room.

“I’m des­per­ate to get the word out there so they can have the same help and sup­port that we’ve had dur­ing the most trau­matic time.”

To make a do­na­tion visit the Ty Gobaith web­site.

Fun-lov­ing Chloe on a jet ski Chloe with brother Brad, mum Karen and dad Ge­off

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