Ask Aunty Nelly

QMy girlfriend talks dirty during sex, especially after she’s had a drink. She talks about famous men, male colleagues and ex-partners.

I used to like it, but now I’ve fallen in love with her. I’ve told her to stop and that it’s no longer a turn-on, but she says she can’t help herself. We haven’t had sex for a few weeks and I’m worried it’s over – am I not enough? Eric, 32 A Sex with a new partner can start out one way, but may change. There are certain things we allow a few times, while we’re getting used to each other. You’ve allowed dirty talk in bed about other men. Now you’ve developed feelings for your girl, you don’t want to hear it.

Have you told her you love her? She may be putting off sex to avoid upsetting you. Be honest.